Your writing here is really interesting. Please, keep it up.. Would you care to elaborate more on the anxiety of forcing unnatural intimacy? I feel that I'm currently suffering this, but not because of my sexual preference. You should write an article about it here and title it exactly that - 'The Anxiety of Forcing Unnatural Intimacy'. It could apply to both gay and hetero relationships as there are many reasons people force themselves into intimacy when they’re not happy or not genuinely feeling it. Many people would relate, I’m sure.