Learn to Welcome Failure As Part of Growth Mindset

Welcome failure as part of growth. When you prepare for success, welcome the inevitable failures that come along with it. They will teach you something (and probably save you a lot of grief!) and get your attention to new ideas and approaches. They will also help you see the unsaid assumptions in our thinking which limit us.


Growth must include failures. Focusing on the "what ifs" in this kind of growth will help us see where we are weak and where we need to improve. The more you listen to failures the more you will learn to welcome failure as a part of growth. When you welcome failure as part of your growth process you will find yourself motivated to improve yourself. You will also be willing to take risks when necessary. Failure is only a stepping stone to success.

It is important to understand that growing without failure and also expecting to fail is part of growing. But unlike the mediocre who is content to just settle for what they have been given, the proud will go out of their way to enhance their talents and succeed beyond their weaknesses. And while the average Joe occasionally fails, the proud will not accept defeat but rather try again. They will try harder.

Accepting failure, particularly as a stepping stone to success, is very hard. For starters, you don't like to fail. As children we learned to expect our parents to fall down on all occasions. We grew up around our mother's knees, expecting her to always be there for us no matter what. Failure, especially as a stepping stone to bigger and better things, makes us fear risk, especially in dangerous and unfamiliar waters. We focus on the downside, not the advantage.

We can overcome our fear of failure by making sure our approach is positive. Instead of focusing on the downside, focus on the upside. One of the best ways to do this is to ask, "What did I learn?" instead of "Did I learn anything?" In other words, ask to see what growth opportunities are available, not what you learned.

Another useful tool to use when confronting your fear of failure is to acknowledge that yes, you did fail, but you can do something about it. Yes, you did fail, but you are a sponge. Yes, you failed today, but you can do something tomorrow to make sure that tomorrow's success will be bigger and better than yesterday. Yes, you did fail today, but tomorrow your failure may bring about greater growth. Don't dwell on your past mistakes, but instead look forward to your future growth.

The third step to dealing with your fear of failure is to identify the reasons why you think this way. Your fears may have arisen from one particular experience, or you may be afraid that you might fail in a future situation. Once you find the cause of your negative attitude, then you can work on developing a growth mindset, so that you welcome failure as part of your growth.

To develop your growth mindset, you need to first be aware of how you think, and then you must decide to work on changing the way you think. This process will take some time, and you should expect to go through a number of setbacks before you finally start to see some growth in your life. However, once you begin to see positive results, your confidence and your happiness will follow.

Finally, you need to think about how you can handle failure. You don't want to get stuck in a pattern of failure, where you always feel scared or guilty about it. You want to break out of that pattern and create a pattern where failure is seen as an opportunity for growth. It's not a tragedy; it's just a hurdle to overcome. When you accept the fact that you could fail, then you also accept the fact that every single person who ever lived failed at something.

So don't fear failure, because it's the only opportunity for growth that you have in your life. Instead, embrace the challenge and use it to propel you into new territory. Failure is the key that will unlock the doors to unlimited success. You don't want to become a run-of-the-mill failure, you want to become the exceptional person that people always admire.


The final step to creating a growth mindset is to take what you've learned from your failures and grow from them. Failures are never going to stop happening. They're going to happen to everyone. But if you learn from them and then continue to push forward, then you'll find that no matter how many times you fail, you can grow through it and become the person that you're always trying to be.