I'm sorry I've not found your work sooner. I feel I need to make time to look into it a but more and listen to your podcasts. While I have come to terms with what happened to my sister and myself, I'm beginning to wonder if I've actually healed.

What you said about women in relationships ignoring it struck home. I know I still harbour resentment towards my mother for not acting and her recent actions lead me to believe you're right in that she found some power in not leaving my father once she knew. She had used it against him since to get the upper hand in a relationship. only very recently did she actually apologise to me for not acting at the time.