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4 Strange Ways To Gain Trust


Whether its closing that big deal or convincing your wife that you and the secretary are just going on a business trip to close that big deal, more trust is definitely something we'd like. But how do we actually increase the level of trust that others have in us? Well qualities such as sincerity, honesty and showing others respect can help develop a trustworthy reputation over the long term, but what if you don't have any time for that shit and just need to quickly trick someone into believing you're a Nigerian prince?

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Yeah I feel sorry for people with only one hand as they need to find a partner with whom to do this sign

Well, you're in luck, because for a low low price of 99.95 Steem, I'll share with you 4 morally and factually questionable techniques to instantly gain the trust of people. Or you can just read the rest of this article for free. I guarantee all these techniques will sometimes work.

Wear Blue Instead of Red

Ah, red vs blue - a rivalry as old as this sentence itself. Science has shown that people who wear blue are more likely to be trusted than those who wear red. And by 'science' I mean flimsy anecdotal groundless testimony obtained in uncontrolled groups - basically the gold standard for the definition of the word 'science' which Scientology wishes it could meet.

The color blue is generally associated with qualities of trust and reliability. If you've ever wondered why they use that blue liquid in sanitary pad ads instead of just good old fashioned period blood, that's probably your answer. And all this time you thought Stayfree was marketing exclusively to royals. And while we're here at high brow humor land I just want to share that I have the most trustworthy balls ever.

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You trust her don't you? Told you it works

Show Some Weaknesses

This is by far the number 1 reason why people find it difficult to trust me: because they just can't relate to someone perfect like myself who has absolutely no flaws. Well it's either that or the fact that I'm a shameless liar.

My research has shown that actual research has shown that displaying weakness can make one appear more disarming and therefore, more trustworthy. Something as simple as mispelling words in a Steemit article can humanize you and get you an avalanche of upvotes. But don't get too carried away. When it comes to the relationship between personal flaws and trust, this isn't the case of the more the merrier. While a nervous giggle can be a cute ice breaker, chewing your toe nails is probably not the best first impression you want to give to a potential big client.

Part Your Hair From the Correct Side

Ok, this one may sound bullshit, as in even more bullshit than the rest of the stuff on this list, but it's strangely interesting in a mundane way that I'm going to include it anyway. Apparently, men are more trustworthy if they part their hair from the left and vice versa for women. Most movie heroes part their hair from the left. Shit, even Superman has a left part while his nerdy alter ego Clark Kent parts his hair from the right.


The glasses and clothes didn't fool anybody, it was the hair part that was the true disguise

Somehow we're all meant to subconsciously process how people part their hairs and form a judgement from it, which is pretty annoying for me because my crown is on the right. So parting my hair from the left makes it look like I'm doing an impression of a combover. But whatever, hopefully people will warm to my braided pubes instead.

Touch Yourself on the Chest in Conversations

Some body language experts have suggested that lightly touching your own chest from time to time in a conversation can engender an image of openness and trustworthiness, especially when you're using positive descriptive language. This automatically causes people to relate you to the positive qualities being described. I suppose the idea would be to slightly gesture towards your chest every time you utter good attributes like 'very reliable' or 'fiercely loyal' or 'not a pedophile' when conversing with others.

And before you ask, no, this doesn't work if you touch yourself elsewhere. So if you want to win people over, there's really no point in going all Michael Jackson on them when in the middle of a conversation.


Sources
101 Simple Ways to Build Trust
7 Ways to Earn Trust with Clients
5 Seemingly Insignificant Things That Make People Like


Image Sources 1,2,3


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I really agree with you, I am your loyal fans, and I have upvote all your articles every time you post and I meresteem it all, I also have long followed you from the first I joined in steemit. Thank you for sharing @trafalgar
I really like your writing style.

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HAHAHA! Suffice to say that my clothes are soaked from the drink that was supposed to go inside of my body. I'm so glad that this gem of a reply sat comfortably at the top.

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:D hahahahaha oh god !!! thanx for letting me watch this reply today !!

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@acidyo legend :D hows you :D :D

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Oh. Just saw this. Now I feel like a twat : D

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thank you afriaulia
I'm a bit busy irl now so I'll be posting less often on here for a while :)

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He is right, I see him, you very rarely post at this time ..
I always monitor your posts

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Hi @trafalgar I've written an article about you, check it out if you can, thanks.

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Nice! Thanks For Share :)
I will follow your account, please follow me at @nikunjo

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Now i have 5 girlfriends and all of them think I'm trustworthy! :D

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I hope you will consider a new tag I am proposing called #humanrelations for posts like this. I feel we are sorely in need of tag specifically for Social Skills, Body Language, Relationship Advice, ect.

see this post: New Tag Campaign - #HumanRelations for more information.
(#notabot Genuine Alien Interaction)

I can try the other 3 options, nothing much I can do in the hair department :D

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haha if you're balding I heard it's better to shave it completely off and
go full lex luther

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that dude's been copying my 'hairstyle', so I try to keep it different :D good to see you back to posting!

Awesome piece! When I wasn't busy reading a sentence, I was rereading the previous one because I was laughing so hard when I was reading it the first time. You write exceptionally well, and apart from the entertainment, I'm dead sure the tips really work. They form a part of neuro-linguistic programming too, don't they? Thoroughly enjoyed... Upvoted and following you for more! Cheers! :) - @sandzat

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thanks sandzat, glad you enjoyed it
I'm less active lately because I'm busy irl, but hopefully still write a bit now and then :)

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Please do. Will be keeping an eye out for your posts. :)

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I have checked your page and wondered where you went LOL. I think from your past comments your are several hours ahead of me -- I am in the EST zone.

It is late, I am offline usually 2 hrs ago but I have noticed your votes here and there for me, and I wanted to take time to say thank you very much.

I appreciate every vote -- but we know the big votes really help out a post in many ways, including visibility to share info.

Anyways, I am glad you are OK - just busy.

Thanks again for your support my man, it is sincerely appreciated.

Nice to see you are back , i think we all missed your posts :)

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haha thank you, just been busy with real life so will be less active on here :)

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Hmm the blind dates go better ! Cool :)

Science has shown that people who wear blue are more likely to be trusted than those who wear red.

Superman and Spiderman wear both blue AND red. So they are trustworthy shady characters :D
On a serious note, though, I certainly don't trust people who wear red. But I'll keep the reasons to myself.

Touch Yourself on the Chest in Conversations

I rarely touch myself.

And before you ask, no, this doesn't work if you touch yourself elsewhere.

I see. This kind of explains some minor setbacks I have had every now and then when interacting with others.

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good info

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Couldn't agree more!

should let my husband read this.

Upvoted - I think some of the subconscious signals can be very powerful

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Couldn't agree more!

You are right, i kinda trust that girl in blue. Especially with that pose. 😁
Your post about life is useful just like a lifehack.

But what i wait most is your contest post. It's fun to read all the comments.
Please consider to post more contest. I wanna read some funny comments. 😁

Thank you for sharing @trafalgar

Nice article i think you should add that while talking don't avoid eye contact or do it less.. people often get uncomfortable when we did this.. and then its gonna lead to loosing trust enven from the begining of conversation

I knew it was a reason why I prefer blue/green and hate red cloth, ha-ha:) And that really was something special in Superman's hair:)
Talking about hair, by the way:) A few weeks ago I made your stylized digital portrait, but seems like you missed it or just didn't like it. Anyway I'd love to know your opinion at least here in comments, cause I tried to contact you with steemit chat when I had " drawing steemians week", but with no success, ha-ha:)

Some how to increase our confident while meet potential client, it's depend on our habit in daily life to get responsibility in anything I think. From this point the trust of u from people will come

You are verry correct about the blue color. Almost everything on an emotional level is somewhat a factor in the way people percieve rach other. Ive noticed that in the long run for myself. The way you look is the way people will percieve you.
Cheers for the great article and much love :)

What an awesome post @trafalgar. For building trust I believe so much on all the nuggets stated by you. I just pick one out of many:
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Take responsibility – when something goes wrong and it’s your fault, take responsibility right away and focus on the next steps. It’s easier to trust someone who owns up to their mistakes.

I'm following you to receive more from you.

Ha ha hair parting ... funny :)

I totally agree, as a sales professional everything your saying is the best way to communicate through body language and perception. Love your post, check out mine if you got some time.

As always very witty. Good to see you back. I was wondering what happened. Welcome back. Cheers!!!!!!

Oh no, I part my hair the wrong direction!

Damn, I will admit. I laughed out loud at my desk....

@trafalgar , this is a good post indeed however can you help me out with this big probem? you indicated a good way to gain trust is :Part Your Hair From the Correct Side !!! what of some men who do not have hair? does it mean that we do not have the chance to win your trust? Moreover, dont forget that most devils wear blue...hahaha great article, upvoted. Pls help , I want to be your Nigerian prince .

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If you have thinning hair I think studies show it's best to shave it off completely than show a balding head

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Aha @trafalgar so your studies show that if a man shave off all his thinning hair that he will gain my trust? thanks ...now men go and shave off all your hairs ...on my way..hiyaaaaaaaaaaaaa

interesting piece @trafalgar

Thanks for the tips and I think i will try blue.

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haha well keep trying I guess :)

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Lol, Hypothesis rejected it seems!
(Following the newly established gold standard of scientific experiments)

Way to break it down @trafalgar... we can apply it to social media also, all these things do work 🙌🏼🙌🏼

Blue shirt that's what I was missing :)

True, but be sure you don't show tooo much weakness or people will start to take advantage of you. Be strong but empathetic.

~ touching myself so people will trust me ~
nice to see you back again trafalgar

Great post :)

Nice lines You trust her don't you? Told you it works

Trust? I am not so sure on trust.

lol very nice post... we understand only a few % of our brains... imagine what we could all achieve if we know 3 % more...

Thanks for your great content about steem power and the importance of buying steem when it is cheap and powering up which motivated me to write me recent post- I mentioned you there-feel free to check it out. More success to you.
I miss your posts!!!!

For some reason I feel like I can trust you...

It's cool how this works. I'm going to use these! I need to be more persuasive. LOL! I especially like the blue vs red concept. I can see this because blue is calming and red usually means alarm.

Those are definitely some strange tactics! they do kind of make sense though. Except the hair part; that one makes no sense at all

Nice way to build up on someone's trust but did it really worth it?? I mean will it worth a plenty...? :D

I think you have done a lot of research in subject which is represented in this blog. When it comes to colour wearing blue colour makes more difference. Your four tips are excellent and I will try to follow them. Touching chest conveys a message of trust me.

of course its only a business trip..

Science confirms over and over again that sociological observations are not scientific.

Well seems that you addressed your post to the limbic part of the brain: our instincts will agree with you from obvious reasons (blue is calm like the lake or the sky and red is danger as the fire) But I would love to believe that we evolved in the latest hundred of years and I would not say not to trust our survival skills but rather to refine them. I am a women that wares red in most of the cases and I am perceived as trustworthy :) Maybe is the fact that adds up the desire (fire whitin) :P Anyway my point is we should question anything our minds as often as we can. Steem on

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But our minds may perceive fire as warmth and water as a danger as well, I think it's more evolution based than anything else.

good post @trafalgar I will keep you going because here I am still a beginner and I really look forward to your support

Never thought about how the colors we wear effect how much trust someone could have for us, great article

Well, there's no exact science behind Trust, but, just in case, I'll start wearing blue from now on...

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haha yeah go all out braveheart, it could work

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Doubt it... It doesn't suit my skin tone anyway.

Being in the ministry, one needs for people to trust them with their situations in life. Some of this I did naturally and some are new (like the touching of the chest.)
upvoted followed and resteemed

Thanks, nice n good article. I just log in yesterday to Steemit. N this is for the first time I read an article. I followed u already.

My research has shown that actual research has shown that

I couldn't help but laugh.

Very interesting read. I generally do not wear much colored clothing, but the chest touching could be interesting. Let's see if I don't forget so I can try it out. I love these social experiments.

Touching your chest. A heart felt moment! Good post. 🐓🐓

That is interesting and funny! We can gain trust in time...

This is so useful somehow, thank you for sharing! Upvoted, please look up my post too


Full Steem Ahead :)

You Are Best @trafalgar
I Read Your Articles
I Agree With You

For the crown on your right.. use pomade! :) Great fun article. Thanks!

Very good article. I like body language also i recomand you to watch Lie to me! serial. U will find there a lot of information about body language and micro expressions!

The best way to gain trust confirmed by myself - fart in front of them.

Unless you are out on the dance floor....then going Michael Jackson is fully encouraged, lol.

I'm horrible at effective communication. I wonder if I touch my chest more and become more trustworthy, if that will improve my communication! I look better in red so that's not changing. Plus I'm losing some hair every day so don't know how much longer I'll be able to part it for.

Nice article from you as always. Glad to see you here.

I haven't seen you here for a while @trafalgar
I missed all your funny blogs that always put a smile on my face.
I didn't realise blue had such a great effect not only in life but also on steemit.
I might do that and watch all the people run towards me in awe.
I hope you are back to stick around :)

because of this bit.....If you enjoyed this piece, please Upvote, Resteem and follow me @trafalgar, especially if you believe non steemit/crypto related articles are good for the platform....I am upvoting etc. I am also going to wear more blue!

Nice article thanks for sharing

really nice article here. This tips is really effective in business but the one thing that intrigues me is the hair thing, how about for people who are bald?

Tips aside, thanks for making me almost pee on my pants while my parents thought I was going mental laughing out loud in the middle of the night. Damn was I glad to see a post from you on my feed.

Incredible post you greeting friends from me@abupasi.alachy

Hey @trafalgar please give me some tips to get followers
and follow me @rajat23 if you like to... ;)

love to read these kind of post thanks for share.

great post. i glad to know you and I hope one day you can tag me @nasrullahilyas on your post . thank you of your time to read my comment

I touch my chest after chest day. It hurts I must say. :P

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haha secret is to just avoid the gym altogether

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Haha you're right.

There so many ways to make healthy sport without going to the gym. Skateboard, parkour, juggling, yoga, running, writing a long post on steemit. ;-)

At last I Can see your stuff again. I've been missing you since Job Interview ))

You write exceptionally well,I think you are a good writer and apart from the entertainment, I'm dead sure the tips really work. They form a part of neuro-linguistic programming too, don't they? Thoroughly enjoyed... Upvoted and following you for more! Cheers!follow me@rameshkumar

I just upvote you ;) hello friends please upvote this comment and follow me I will follow you back :)

Loved your post, very original and funny! Thanks for share with us ur research!

Cool post! I follow you!

my mind was blown away on the superman disguise trivia :)

nice post

I wish I read your observations earlier! I usually wear blue, but part my hair the wrong way; I speak with a lisp and am an atrocious speller (written lisp), but my gestures are nevet self referential. I have been negating my tryst building with non-trust building actions.

Now I am going to defiantly neglect spell check, thump my chest often, throw out any shades of red, and part my hair correctly.

beautifully constructed post, the superman bit and about the parting of the hair was hilarious, so what happens with someone double crowned? Do they part half one way and half the other : ) Body language is very important and most people are oblivious when they are saying one think but their body is portraying a different vibe.

"Wear Blue Instead of Red"

You've just outed yourself as a Crip.

Another good one is apparently men are found to be much more trustworthy in a suit, and I suspect, that applies to (some) uniforms too.

I thoroughly enjoyed this post. Well written, learned something new. Thank you!

Very interesting.

Me sacastes varias sonrisas hoy, y me cambiaste el humos parecen cosas simplemente de chiste pero son muy veridicas tendemos hacerlos conceptos errados de las personas por su apariencia fisica y ciertos detalles.

I never knew the colour of cloths could help you gain trust. I guess I should do a wardrobe change, because I've not been a cloth-conscious guy. I'm going out to get some blue cloths. What do you think?
Nice post there. Upvoted and Followed ya

Great post... love it... upvoted and resteemed. Cheers

Right crown, well ain't that nice. At least you have hair! I guess I will work on chest touching and the colour blue.

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The wearing blue topic is definitely legit. When i play live poker i always wear blue clothing so i can bluff other players more often.

Yeah
you didn't mentioned that you also have to be super hot and sexy to get these 4 strange ways to gain trust working

i think i agree with this @trafalgar. thanks for sharing. this is a great write up and a great read for me. thank you

So tapping yourself on the chest while saying: "I Tarzan". Is the perfect way to gain trust, especially if you're wearing blue. Gottcha!

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who's blue people?

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Best. Comeback. Ever. Nailed it!

Another good tip would be to stand by your values.

Carefully reading your 4 strange.... & i like most of touch your self.... part. i think if we care someone special she/he must be fall in love @trafalgar

My favorite witty shameless liar! That was another fun read!

Very interesting, and yes kind of strange! I do enjoy reading non-crypto articles, so I'm glad I found you!

90% of communication is nonverbal, so I wouldn't be surprised if us silly humans would fall for these psychological tricks.

Very interesting ways, I would be trying them, surely.

Great reading. I love your post.

Clark and superman are different actors
true story

Hilarious post, and yet so true in many ways. I can tell from just looking at my own personal encounters with others, that I've have come off more trustworthy and vice versa when certain points on this list were in. And I think there's a lot of truth to the point on showing weaknesses. I think that when you confess a weakness to someone, if makes it seem less horrible and humiliating to do the same, and so the other person is more encouraged to open up. Really enjoyed reading this :)

Hahahahaaaha...wait...hahahaaaa, you said period blood, oh God. Missed this for sure ;) And I did a quick scan of the comments to see if anyone else would be as classy as me by saying it again, might have missed it, but it doesn't appear so, LOL. (Now I have a Lorde song stuck in my head... THANKS ;)

Hey--you even posted it on Sunday for me!