Communication Barriers

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In this article, I want to handle a problem, which we all face off and I will try to present this problem according to my experiences. Have fun while you are reading!

The inability to communicate is one of the most major problems in our era. You know what I wont say one of it is indeed the most crucial problem. Even though we say the same things most of the time, because of our inability to communicate efficiently we can't compromise. In the essence of efficient communication Obviously we can't deny the effect of the good listener and a good narrator but on the other hand the consciousness about your own values and trusting yourself is really important to maintain a successful communication. The individual with great communication skills notices the hints immediately (body language, mimics and gestures) and evaluates these in realistic way. There are always some obstacles in front of an efficient communication. To knowing these will help us to overcome these obstacles.

To order and mannipulate

If you order someone it gives a message of "Your feelings are not important" to the other side and they feel obligated to do the things you say to them.

Stop talking to me like that!

To warn and intimidate

This one is actually really close to giving orders and manipulate but this one contains another group of words which prevents other sides capacity to give an answer.

If you don't give what you have in your hand I will never come with you to any place.

Giving morality lessons

Using the authority and power of obligation against the other people and it always provokes individuals to withstand.

When you enter the house you need to take out your shoes , wash your hands and you need to be respectful while you are talking with your elders.

Proposing solution ideas and giving advices

This type of communication implies that the person doesn't have the needed skills to solve the problem.

You need to finish your friendship with this girl or you are going to be sad in your entire life.

To Judge , criticise , blame and not approving

These kind of messages makes a lot of impact rather than adults and it is really malignant because it affects your children's self respect in most dramatic way. The Negative criticising makes people feel unworthy and not enough.

You did it wrong again , you always do same mistakes on same things!
I disagree you, I absolutely find you wrong on this subject and I don't think you are highly informed on this matter.

Praising and always agreeing

On the contrary to the other subtitle this one creates a communication problem too. Most of the people may think that this is harmless but the unreal evaluations which doesn't fit to the individuals may create anger and people get used to it and become praise junkies.

Mocking and calling names.

This affects all the people and especially children and it has a negative affect on people's self-esteem.

Always Consoling

I see this title as a girl Whatsapp group problem :D. In this cases people choose to console others like the problem doesn't exist. Therefore the problem remains unsolved it just delays to face with inevitable.

Dont be upset , Tomorrow everything is going to be great and you are going to feel yourself better.

Asking questions ,testing and Interrogate others.

This is the title of my neighbor. She got amazing set of skills. She can ask 17 questions when the elevator moves from 1st floor to 3rd. The best part is she doesn't even need to listen the answers of the questions. She just need to ask them for relief. (That number is real btw I personally counted it myself.)
If I give examples from myself whenever this kind of communications happens I feel insecure and stressed. I don't feel like I'm in a comfortable mood. Do you feel that way too ?. If you say yes this is an communication problem too.

Not Holding your Promises , Mocking ,Changing the Subject and Stalling Off

The people may think that the other party in the communication isn't showing respect to his/her feelings. When the opposite site telling you about severe problems your reply with jokes may hurt them.

Teaching , Lecturing and Proposing Logical İdeas

Calling this topic a communication barrier might her my national identitiy :)
Because as Turkish nations this is what we love most. Offering logical ideas implies that the other person is not logical and ignorant fool. Therefore this is an obstacle in succeeding a decent communication.

You can ask a lot more subtitles under the topic of "Communication Barriers" I tried to presented you what came into my mind first. If you want to add more to these with your comment everybody can be aware of these . I wish you to build solid foundations to your communication!