The Youth Crisis

Are we unknowingly narcissistic?

My solitude lately has given me an awful lot of time to think on a lot of things. It has also given me an opportunity to have clarity, a clarity to see how people behave in certain situations. It made me think of an old saying “A friend in need is a friend indeed.” It indeed seems like an old saying now because in today’s world it is more like “A friend will be there if circumstances are convenient.” Mind you, my thoughts don’t come from a place of hatred but it is indeed the outcome of a very careful analysis.

After @sjennon left for her travels I was heartbroken and so I decided on a social experiment. I thought it would help with my anxieties. I now wanted to see who all of my friends will show up without asking, who all will I have to ask and will then show up and who all don’t show up at all. To my immense surprise the friends that I held most dear to my heart didn’t show up on my repeated asking. In fact they told me they were busy and stressed out in their own work. They all talked about how depressed they were, how sad they were in their lives. The rest did not bother really.

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I won’t lie, experiment aside it did make me cry at some point. It also led me to a couple of very powerful realizations. So here they are:

A. People these days, no matter how good friends you are with them might not be there for you in your time of need. It’s not because they are bad people but because selfishness is a quality that has become such an intrinsic part of every human’s nature that it passes unidentified. We tend to always say “First me then others”. While this is not always a bad thing but sometimes it has to be someone else before you in a scenario where you want such a reciprocation too. These someone are your friends or a best friend maybe? But we get dissolved in our own misery so much so that we become completely blind to someone else’s problems. We like to believe that our issues are the worst ones. Irony is perhaps I thought that too and maybe I’m being inconsiderate as well. But who has the answer? Maybe the answer is to just sit down and be there for each other at the same time. All you have to do is let aside your egos and grudges and just try once in a while to think of others. Simple eh?

B. Another major thing that I realized is that 80% of our youth is suffering from depression.
When you ask them why they are depressed, they’re never able to answer. They look confused as if it’s been wiped from their memories. They try to give themselves reasons like “oh I don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend in my life”, “I do not have enough money”, “I am alone”. This deep sense of missing fulfillment is a big unsolved question for our generation. Why is it that we feel unsatisfied no matter what we are doing and no matter what we have. If this was a sci-fi movie I’d say we are all bunch of robots or people designed to find our true purpose in an agonizing simulation. Only way to get out of this simulation is to solve the mystery. As they say the truth shall set you free my friend.

C. We need to learn to be happy in ourselves. It’s only us that knows us and it’s only us that can curb our pain. Someone once told me that I need to learn to be my own paradise. It’s only when we learn how to be happy with ourselves that we can be happy with someone else. Else, we put all our hopes on that one person and that’s just too much pressure on one person and that is just so not fair.

D. The fourth and most important realization is that Netflix is da bomb and it’ll get your through literally anything.

Alright fellas
@things out.

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