How to Mend Your Own Broken Heart

WARNING ⚠️ THIS MIGHT MAKE YOU CRY!!!

And that would be the best case scenario!!!

Where do we begin to heal the deep emotional wounds of the past? How do we begin to embrace the child whose needs were unmet, who often cries out...at the least expected moments....from deep within our subconsciousness.

What if we have no idea how to love ourselves?

One of the most important aspects of self-mastery is "inner work" or "self-intimacy"...which involves taking responsibility of the quality of your own experience.

This often requires befriending your inner child first...creating a safe space for him or her to feel validated. When we create a sacred holding space for our inner child, we are able to calm our nervous system from fight or flight mode...where many of us constantly dwell....without needing to look outside for external validation or comfort.

One quick way to do this is called, "I love you's", which comes from Matt Kahn, author of "Whatever arises...Love That". Here's a powerful video of this mantra that you can repeat with him.

One of my favorite practices, that I learned from Matt Kahn's book, is to make a list of all the phrases that you never heard...or wish you would have heard...as a young child or adult...when you were confused, sad, afraid, or angry. Once you have made your list, you can start to say these phrases to your inner child during those moments you tend to abandon yourself, suppress your emotions, or start to blame someone for how you are feeling.

Here is my list...try it and let me know how it affects you. I'd love to hear from you.

25 phrases to mend a broken heart (especially your own)...

1. Thank you for your patience with me
2. I desire to be more present and receptive to you.
3. Please forgive my reactions
4. You don't have to forgive me now
5. I recognize that I have acted in ways that have hurt you and caused you to lose trust in me.
6. How may I serve you and be a better listener.
7. I receive you in this moment.
8. I always want to cultivate love with you
9. I care about your heart and your happiness
10. I'm here to listen
11. I'm on your side
12. I feel your desire for harmony
13. I feel your desire for safety and nurturance
14. I'm sorry for hindering your tender heart expressions.
15. I always want to know how you feel
16. You deserve more love not less
17. Your thoughts and feelings are important to me.
18. You have the best ideas and solutions
19. I want to know your deepest hearts desires.
20. I see that my actions have hurt you so many times.
21. I can sense your heart breaking
22. I feel your desire to soften
23. I feel your desire to shift our old patterns
24. I see how much you've suffered
25. I desire to evolve and deepen and I ask you to join me.

What would you say to your child self to mend your heart?

After you've gotten comfortable with your own heart...and felt what it's like to be given compassionate attention...you can then start to say these things things to others with authenticity.

This is where the magic happens. Characters in the play of life start to shift...hearts soften...weapons and shields dropped.

Try it and let me know if this works for you.

Aloha,

Pachee

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