Totally feel your pain. We host Thanksgiving for give or take 20 people, this year looks like it will be more. Each year I spend no less then 8 hours cleaning house to keep the Wife happy.

Everyone that comes is family, they know what our house looks like on a normal basis...why stress about it? But she does...trust me it's not a Brazilian thing.

Anyways this year I decided to get a head start and took all the art glass above our kitchen cabinets down. Washed everything and then got on a step stool and cleaned the tops of the cabinets and the lighting. Normally this doesn't get done very often so it's a project when I do it.

Plan on getting things like the ceiling fans and other high spots that are always my job done early so there is less for her to stress about. The meal prep is enough to think about with a houseful of people.

You just roll with these things and stuff we do that drive the Woman crazy they just roll with in return. Give a little, take a little...in the end that makes for a lasting relationship.