Distance never felt so far
There is nothing like welcoming a new addition to a small family as a reminder of how important or precious life is but, when it happens on the other side of the world, it is also a reminder of just how far away the other side of the world actually is. These are the feet of my daughter, they are much bigger now and they will never be this size again.
The distance is by choice, not necessity but it doesn't always feel this way, especially as once one has built a life away, a life back becomes increasingly difficult. Having children complicates things further because as to move is to impose a life away on them without choice.
The last two years have been incredibly difficult for my wife and I for many reasons but, we are by no means alone in the struggle to make a life out of adversity. Many, perhaps most, in the world face struggles that get in the way, slow them down and perhaps halt them in their tracks as they try to find a place, a piece of life that they can experience something worth living.
Should it be this hard r, is it the difficulty that makes the journey worthwhile? Perhaps that without the struggles we face we do not appreciate what we have and, without the gratitude for what we have, maybe what we aim for in the future becomes unimportant and frivolous, something not worthy of the struggle to begin with. Without hardship, why work for a better world, without hunger, why eat? Without missing someone, why work to meet?
I don't know when I will meet him, I don't know if I will ever get the chance but, I am glad that he arrived and I am glad that his parents will do what they can to look after him and give him the possibility to live a good life, no matter the troubles they themselves will face. This is the role of a parent, to be willing to sacrifice so that another can live. The goal of course is that the sacrifice necessary is limited and a life together can be held but, the willingness to work for another, work for each other, is a must.
I will never get to hold his feet when they are so tiny but perhaps one day, I will get to meet him and get to know him.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
Welcome aboard, little dude :)
Wait til you try icecream. Heaps better than breastmilk.
"is it the difficulty that makes the journey worthwhile?"
Maybe it is the ability to integrate difficulties in your life in a positive way that makes life worthwhile. Perhaps difficulties give life meaning.
There are people I know, who ostensibly have no such objective difficulties, who feel the weight of meaninglessness, and are relentlessly miserable.
I think they end up creating difficulties just to have something to complain about :)
It is nice when they get older and you can have a conversation with them without being judgmental. Life will teach them the lessons. Sometimes you just have to sit back, let them make mistakes. If you done it all right they will come back for advice and guidance.
Making mistakes isn't really the problem, surviving them is. Too often the approach to survive is to avoid facing the challenge.
That's your job. With just a little nudge here and there they will accept it and realize it and seek advice in a roundabout way. They don't need criticism or put on the defensive.
You been through it :) we all have.
Done right relationships will grow.
The teen years are worse you will go through. Good luck with that one. LOL
‘A Good Life’... there is a very deep concept. I am wondering how to define it specifically. The motivation for eating, meeting etc. are all somewhat painful. To enjoy pleasure requires pain? To enjoy a ‘good’ life requires what?
If we aren't in some discomfort, why would we ever move i guess. If we don't need to move, we don't need to think at all.
At a point I felt you were talking about you not seeing your daughter for a while and you really miss her then you were referring to a 'him' and his parent... That kind of confused me but nevertheless I pray whatever it is you and your family are going through that you have the strength to overcome.
Yeah you weren't the only one who got totally lost on that conversation...I was thinking the same thing.
You got a 46.40% upvote from @ocdb courtesy of @tarazkp!