You can’t please everyone

I recently found out that I have some frienemies. You know, women that pretend to be my friends, but actually talk bad about me behind my back. They friended me on Facebook, acted nice to me, but then insulted my integrity and character behind my back.

At first when I heard about this, it really hurt my feelings. It bothered me, because I have been nothing but nice to these people… my husband would say I’m overly nice. 

After being hurt by this for a few hours, I went to dinner with my husband and he basically put me in my place. What he said really resonated with me, so I wanted to share it with you all on here...

He said:

“Why are you letting this get to you? On a scale of 1-10, you are at a ten right now. These women mean nothing to you. They aren’t your friends or your family. They should not be in your “circle of emotions”. You should not give them a second of your time. Forget trying to win them over, you can’t please everyone and not everyone will like you. Who cares? At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. Your life goes on. Mean and negative people are not good to be around and they should be avoided [at all costs]. They put out negativity, they get that back. Don’t be like them. If you get mad and angry and become bitchy, then you are no better than them. Use that energy for something good. Focus on your family and your amazing life. Who cares what they think?”

He went on to explain that he separates business and acquaintance relationships from his family/friend relationships. He told me that when I am rude to him, it really hurts his feelings… but when a guy at work lies to his face and then tries to steal one of his major distributors, he just brushes it off, even if he has been nothing but nice to that guy. Also, if someone is snappy or rude to him at the grocery store or coffee shop, it doesn’t bother him. Why? Because he didn’t do anything. 

The reason that these people don’t like me has NOTHING to do with me. It has everything to do with them. If someone is rude to me or talks about me behind my back, when I have done nothing wrong, it’s because of their own personal issues. Maybe they are insecure. Maybe jealous. Maybe I remind them of someone they don’t like. Maybe they just got in a fight with a loved one and are taking it out on me. Maybe they are having money problems. Maybe they are sick? Stressed? It could be a million things, but NONE of them have to do with ME or YOU. 

I wanted to post this, because I know most people have been in a situation like this and I just wanted to remind you to use that frustrated energy for something good. Do what you want to do with your life and don’t let mean people make you feel bad about it. 

I’ll admit I wear my heart on my sleeve and tend to be a bit sensitive, but I’m going to try to get a thicker skin. I want stuff to bounce off of me. With that said, I’ll continue to be a friendly, welcoming person. I always assume that I am going to be friends with someone, until they give me a reason not to be (which has not happened in many years, until now... I guess I’ve lucked out with my friends, they are all great people). 

                    Hope everyone had a happy day:)