Oh I have missed your posts greatly, this is indeed a bachelor's dilemma, from what I can observe you need someone who can help build your dreams even as a married man. You need someone who can also support you, so it's between the first two, I would advise you start up a relationship first, by then anyone of them can comprise and see things in your perspective. All the best capt, I truly wish you the best.

Also communication is vital in marriage. Check which one suits this category.