Dating now is a lot like going shopping when you don't have any money

in #life6 years ago (edited)

I think dating are stressful because people get hung up on concerns, showing their good sides, rather than enjoying the experience.
Like be up too late laughing together, send funny texts , test a meal non of you have tried... whatever ;have fun & enjoy IT

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I find it super annoying that at the beginning, there is this unspoken expectation that you have to act a certain way. Femails should be super polite, reserved, agreeable, charming (forced qualities) and sexy at the same time. It's exhausting and frankly, I’m too old to fake it (yes, thats in every way you think)
We can’t ask someone to be something we’re not-If you value financial responsibility in someone, you have to show up like that
More important be the best version of yourself
When you are a person content with their life who can go to bed happy just being themselves, someone will come along

Remember that humans aren’t static, but that they evolve in relation to other humans

I don’t know if this happens for everyone, but for me there have been a series of experiences lately that, in reflection, are -slap-you-in-the-face-you’re-an-adult moments

Meet up with a friend of a friend; everything seemed fine—hes well dressed hade a good job.
Japping about all and nothing, joking around, & then all of a sudden he gets really serious and started taking me through his family health history O.o : diabetes, cancer alcoholism, and mental illnesses of all kinds.
So i ask,-why do you tell me this?
Hes responce, -Well, if we have kids someday, it’s best you know all of this now.
KIDS? Heay sunshine, let me finish my coffee second cup of coffee first, why dont you...

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Ahahaha first date and he's already talking about having kids?! Pffffha!

I'm always myself, I'm not good at pretending to be someone I'm not. So is a take it or leave it with me, ha!

He is dating or wanna meeting for kids...lol

He just wanted kids! Ahahaha

Clearly -di get WHY he font have EM kids thow😉😜

Yeah i wasent efen dating lol i was there for coffee😬🙄😂
If now meeting for kid making , then just say-heay how about sex?😂

Jupp and im sitting there like -WTF just went down?😬
I know you are doll😍💘❣️ Buuuut many do a playoretend..😞 i could fake my self, even IF i tried😂😝

Ahahahaha!!!

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Thank you so much🐉💗🐲

take me as i am or kiss my Hello :D

As you are, is as you should be, nooo edit button needed :D Hailo and all ^^

wavs wine glass around i seem to have lost my food you got any :D

ratflol !!!!!! wave that glass for me toooOOoooo,;) :P :D wine have grapes in it, noo need for food ;)

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share? we dooo like share.. see it as a resteem? ;) LOL Cheers sweety :D 💖 maybe you should fix my homework????

if you want an F sure i was never good at homework im great at eating drinking and talking to my self i give my self an A ++++++++

nooo i cant do wizz a F... i dont think i even siince i was a kidlett hade a F.. i like A and B :P
but heay, im doing essay on useabilety & tecnicalety of trauma & PTSD messurements; sooo what effer could go wrong on that? As that wine will make it look sooo fab and all ^^
See, now your talking; its a super power to be good with food and drinks :D LOL
the talking to your self part.. hmm we need to japp a bit about that .. ;)

Dating is the stage of a relationship where both of you get to know each other. There's nothing wrong in knowing his family history on the first date. Beside, you should even be grateful to him because he has given you some clues about himself that would help you decide if you want to see him again or not.

Both men and women feel pressure to be at their best during a date because everyone is trying to impress the other person and have a chance of seeing the person again should the person turn out to be someone that he/she truly likes. Dating is very interesting if you try to be yourself and don't expect too much from your date. Try to know the person first before you start expecting

I totally agree with you @2jadyclem :D thats what you should be doing :D
I like the fact of the, honer to have him telling me his history, my iffy is the reson for telling me...
I know its stressful for both sides, which is kind of why, i did the post in the first place :)
secondly, i think it shouldent be stressful, it should be nice/fun.
I agree, my point point is actually,- IF you show, who you are, you will find someone who like you & nooot the 'looks good but it turns out, she/he wasent, who i thought '
Be the best of you

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