To address the rape victim analogy (and she is a true victim), I think the reason people talk about "victim blaming" is because the question of "what was she doing there" is usually one of the first questions asked, and I don't know that it is a legitimate question. Yes, the world is a dangerous place, but does that mean that we should allow for that danger to impact our decisions? If we do, doesn't that mean that we are just as caged as any animal? If a man walks through a park at night and gets violated, that question never comes up. It's specifically designed to imply that women don't belong in certain spaces, on threat of violence. I struggle with that idea, myself.