Myths On Developing Self-Confidence

in #life7 years ago (edited)

Hi Steemit Friends,

I had the opportunity to read a book about self-confident and i stumbled upon something quite interesting. I want to share to you today about some wrong understanding people have about self-confidence.I find this helpful for myself and i hope this can be a little useful to my fellow steemians. :)

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When You Have Self Confidence You Can Master Anything

Confidence Is crucial for success but so is competence!.

  • Confidence Without Competence = Delusion

  • Competence Without Confidence = Unfulfilled Potential

Confidence is extremely important but it's not the only key to achieve success. You need to develop your skills and gain experience that will cement your success.

Some People Are Born With Confident

There are some certain of truth to this like some children are born more extrovert while others are more introvert but it doesn't mean they have more confidence.

  • Extrovert people can be more socially confident and comfortable around people but it's also quite easy to have their confidence crushed by others.

  • An Introvert person might be less comfortable being around people but doesn't mean that with the right encouragement, opportunity and environment, the wont grow or show confidence.

There can be No Room For Self-Doubt

It is Healthy and Helpful to Have a small level of Self-Doubt.

It can Motivates you to grow and improves to be better. Having self-doubts makes us human.

when you someone who appears to be all putted together and super confident, remember beneath that they might not show you that in times they feel inadequate and insecure.

Alcohol Gives You Confidence

When you use alcohol as your only source of confidence, you over estimate your own abilities and underestimate the negative consequences of your actions. It can bring but also the pain.

Building self confident is so important but also having a right understanding ,looking at it and walk towards it the right way.....

Thank you For Your Upvotes and Comments
Much Love, Suzana

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So besides alcohol and not expecting too much on myself, any other suggestion to train or improve my self confidence?

Basically, the goal is to develop a deep understanding of yourself (how does a human body and mind work + what are some specificities for yourself) and your surroundings. When you understand these two processes you will apply them easier and boost your confidence. I've been working on this kind of stuff for 10 years now, and I can only tell you it can most definitely be done. You can do this by reading lots of books, acquiring a skill (for me white-water rafting, fitness, ngos, online marketing) and spirituality. Hope that helps.

I always had self-conf but three years ago I started to have some episodes of Panic and I have been in
Psychiatrists and they just made me more anxious about everything!! Now I don't know if
If they (Psy) made me lose my confidence or so. I think I have to work on my spirituality , I believe everything is in our own minds but when the panic comes I feel myself without power to fight against cause it's not easy !!

I think we all go through a face of panic once a while in life. It's okie to not be okie all the time. Just remember to get back up and stand tall.. !!

yup, tks for the kind words :-)

@raphavongal, maybe a time off from the thing you are working on, a change of environment or some recovery trip could help. All the best! You can always share your journey and fight here too. I am sure that you are not alone.

Great tips, will try to implement one by one :) Thanks @mookie!

Thank you for your knowledgeable comment !! Means a lot !!! :)

@mookie gave a great answer.

I've found it mostly involves focusing inward on developing yourself in all the areas you feel you are lacking.

As you do this, confidence grows naturally. My 2 centavos... :)


I've written a post on the late, great Chuck Berry's music. It's pretty musical. :)

I like the lines

"Confidence Without Competence = Delusion
Competence Without Confidence = Unfulfilled Potential"

The universe has lost a lot because of both those scenarios. And the worst part is that People in Category 1 trample people in category 2. Which will lead to more power concentrating with people in Category 1. So this is more like a vicious cycle which needs to be broken form the both the sides(two diagonally opposite points) of the circle.

good news, thank you, upvoted pleez .

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Read "Daring Greatly" by Brianne Brown. It's fantastic.

I'll take a look at it thank you for the recommendation :)

Modern day pop culture teaches us how to be confident, without competence... :D look at the social media influencers

That is more life Fame not confidence...... But i get what you are trying to say. Social media has both sides to it for sure.

There are a lot of myths to self confidence but the essential truth is that it is a fundamental to your well being, no matter how you chose to factor it there is no getting away from the fact that self confidence is crucial to being able to being a well rounded well adjusted balanced human being.

You are absolutely right ! Thank you for your comment

Which book is that? Good writing though. Keep sharing.

Confidence Without Competence = Delusion

Competence Without Confidence = Unfulfilled Potential

You're totally right !!!

Confidence is the key of success and can master of Human being as the potential ....

#upvoted and #resteed
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