Cuckoldry Is Good For Couples.
In our current political climate, the term “cuck”, short for “cuckservative”, has become an insult of the so-called alt-right, aimed at men they view as spineless and emasculated. The slur has its roots in the concept of cuckolding, or having an adulterous partner.
But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness…
As a sex therapist, one of the more intriguing findings from this study involves the impact of cuckolding on relationships.
“Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior,” said Ley. “It doesn’t appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one’s partner.” But there’s an important caveat, added Lehmiller. “We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren’t careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience,” he said. “In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it.”
For couples who do decide to move forward, it’s important to take things slow. “The reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else — or knowing they’re doing it, if you’re not there — is often very different than the fantasy. It can dredge up powerful emotions, so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating,” said Savage. “That said, the rewards can be amazing, according to couples who have successfully folded cuckold play into their relationships.”
This is intellectual justification for the rabbit’s promiscuous reproductive strategy. I let you sleep with him, and then I can sleep with her. If you lack the drive to monopolize an exceptionally fit mate’s genes, and have an r-selected drive to reproductively “spread bet,” all of this looks like a wonderful idea to you. In fact, it reinforces that your mate is desirable to lots of other mates, and mates with tons of other mates, and thus your offspring with her will be super r-selected. Anything which supports those r-instincts will be immediately supported because your brain will see it as logical support for your emotional desires.
Still, I do detect, more and more, an almost air of the demonic. I get the impression these are people who are smart enough to know these urges will not produce life-long happiness or satisfaction, and they are deriving great joy from leading the idiots into ruining their own lives. Is this sex therapist really this stupid, that he thinks a monogamous couple should try cuckoldry, and it will make them happier, and improve their bond?
The story of Satan, hating the weak sinners with passion, and wanting his followers to get them to sin so he can take them, more and more seems rooted in a very real fashion in the world around us, and there are those who seem to be executing his plays in ever more brazen fashion.
I have wondered if God only shows up when He is needed, and in r-selected times He leaves everyone to their devices, as times are not bad enough. It has left me to wonder if the religiosity that arises spontaneously in times of K is due to the shift in amygdala development and a better ability to grasp reality, or if more people end up seeing the demonic reveal itself more openly, and the divine emerge in contrast to offer a more tangible comfort and support.
If so, know you may see something, and stay open to the possibility, because those times are closing in.
