Submission

in #life4 years ago

Honestly I thought submission worked uniquely for me because I was special or a natural sub. But now I see...

We all have our shit, our stories, our core beliefs about our identity that we locked onto in childhood and beyond. These stories become lenses we see life through. It’s like having gauze over your eyes...

These stories we believe about ourselves define our boundaries, limits and parameters we operate within.

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So submission freed me of mine, because I had to give it all up for a while. I became nothing. I had no will, no preferences, no attachments, no desires or people to please...only Him, His desires, limits and preferences. I was reset to nothing so that my ego structure could rest a while, could become quiet, and underneath all that ego chatter I began to hear my true self. I was encouraged to listen to her and she has grown strong, purposeful and beautiful.

But the point is that submission was a tool or a technique. It got “me” out of my own way.

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That’s what any good coach, Dom, boss or teacher does. It helps clear the player, sub, or students lens so then they can see more clearly. So they can see what they truly are and what they are really capable of.

I became nothing for a while. Little “i”, my ego, got out of the way. Now she didn’t go quietly. She only finally surrendered because of utter defeat, desperation and despair once she was exhausted of trying false ways. She was sad and depleted from getting triggered from every direction everyday for years as real life doesn’t always agree with the stories we cling to about our identity. Real life doesn’t always cooperate with the outcomes we so desperately try to control.

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I dare you to try it. I dare you to find a trusted advisor, partner, manager, or coach and let them develop you. You see it’s not always that the coach, partner, or manager is smarter or wiser than you, they just aren’t burdened by your filter! So if you trust them to have your best interest at heart you can then begin to integrate their advice to move past your self imposed limits. To operate beyond the boundaries you have set for yourself based on stories that you play in the background on repeat. They play so constantly you no longer hear them. But they play on directing your decisions and reactions nonetheless. Letting go of the story by temporarily by being under the guidance or coaching of another soul resets your stories of what you’re capable of in The most powerful way - experientially. 🙌🏽

Find your guide...Trust. Surrender. Let go. Try it. Get out of your own way and see then where life takes you...

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Bella 🌹

Your articles are always right on time for me. I'll honestly think on it and search, a mentor is fine. Hope I find one true enough. Thanks a lot @steemed-open. Thank you.

Hi lovely. It has changed my life so tremendously that I can’t help but encourage it! Best wishes in your search. Please let me know if you find someone.

Oh I will, thanks a lot for your kindness 😙

Wise word I have a few developers current for differing areas of my life 💯🐒

Developer...that’s a good name for this role as well.

I thought that you might have such. 😽

Thanks! I think we meet different developers throughout our life when we need then. The skill is recognising they are there 💯🐒

Oooohh... that’s deep. True.

Haha I like deep 😁 💯🐒

This describes partly describes my relationship to God:

"That’s what any good coach, Dom, boss or teacher does. It helps clear the player, sub, or students lens so then they can see more clearly. So they can see what they truly are and what they are really capable of."

Yes, pleasing God can function in that way for some.

In many ways, submission is the ultimate control.
Only you have the power to fully submit, to fully give yourself.
In almost all ways, the sub is the one in control.

I agree, with that last sentiment, that everyone must find the way to ...Trust. Surrender. Let go. Try it. Get out of your own way...

Good point and so true. I can tap out at anytime, so in a way the one giving up control is in control. Although the same goes for Him, as at any time He could say “this is a lot of work and I’m done with it.” Fortunately that’s not happened at all so far. It has just gotten better and better between us.

All that intense trust cannot help but make it all better for a couple.
I am so happy for the connection you two have. It's so impressive to find the perfect partner

Our connection is intense. Thank you! We couldn’t be happier

It's so true my lovely..

it all comes back around in finding ourselves , by loving ourselves. Harder than it seems - things get in the way, especially other people!

Well, sometimes another person IS the way...at least that’s what saved me. 💗

I truly believe your below words. Followed you to learn something from your great articles.

You see it’s not always that the coach, partner, or manager is smarter or wiser than you, they just aren’t burdened by your filter! So if you trust them to have your best interest at heart you can then begin to integrate their advice to move past your self imposed limits.

I will feel honored if you accept me as friend:)

Thank you @dindar. I like your blog :)

Many thanks for stopping by my blog. Waiting for your next article :)

Voted already followed and love it! Keep growing!

Thank you for comment and the resteem of my other post 🙏🏽

Your welcome!

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