4 TYPES OF MEN IN A RELATIONSHIP...Where do you fall?

In a relationship, all men fall into four categories; A boy, A player, A confused man and A real man.

A BOY: A boy will always be a boy regardless of his age. Growing up and growing old is never the same. Growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional and by choice. A boy cares less about what makes you happy as a woman.

He knows nothing about putting a home together and he is not ready to learn. The woman would do the thinking and make the tough decisions.

He would be more concerned about his mode of dressing than his character. A boy is loose, he will kiss and tell and talks about everything in his relationship to everybody and openly condemn his woman.

A boy would make his mum his next of kin even when he is married to a good wife with kids. A boy never worries about the future because he never wants to grow. He knows nothing about responsibility or being responsible. He will beat his woman, care less about her pain, make his woman’s life miserable not because he is wicked but because he is a child.

He would rather hang out with his hommies and play video games rather than stay at home with his wife and family.

You cannot put a bike engine in a car and expect the performance of a car and so when a mature woman dates or marries a boy, she automatically becomes a girl. She will change from a peaceful mature woman to a nagging young girl and people would think she has gone insane.

A boy is easily intimidated by his woman’s position, status and feels insecure by her income. He will always fight and demand for respect because he thinks he is a man based on his age. It’s often difficult to communicate with a boy since he is always right. He feels superior and thinks he is doing he woman a favour by dating or marrying her.

A PLAYER: it better to be single than date a player. No matter how much effort you invest in a relationship with a player, its most likely to end in vain.

A player is smart but wicked, selfish and inconsiderate and will never stay faithful to one woman.

Most women fall for players because they always look attractive and presentable.

Players often have something extraordinary about them. He can be rich, famous, tall, handsome, romantic, good in bed and possess many qualities that a woman would want in her dream man. He would sweep you off your feet and make you believe you are the luckiest woman alive. He would tell you what you love to hear and show you what you love to see.

He would make unbelievable promises. He would get into your head and into your heart and take control of your thinking. He would spend any amount of money to get between your legs and after accomplishing his mission, the story changes.

A player’s time is very limited because he has a lot of women to share it with.

No woman can win a game with a player except for the material woman who never dates or marries for love.

A player’s heart has n space for love. He will only marry a potential victim for selfish reasons or benefits and continue his games after marriage.

He will tell terrific stories about his innocent wife just to get another woman to bed.

A CONFUSED MAN: The problem with a confused man is that he doesn’t know what he wants. Relationships are like a door-way, you are either in or you are out. A confused man would put one leg on and one leg out.

People would always think he has a perfect relationship, meanwhile he isn’t sure of where he stands. A confused man can be a wonderful guy who doesn’t play games like the player does.

He would love you, cherish you and give you all you want but he will never propose. He would give excuses all the time and out your life on hold, not because he is bad but because he is yet to figure out what he wants for his life.

A confused man may have an unfinished business. He will be in a relationship and still be talking and hanging out with his Ex, not because he is a bad person but simply because he is CONFUSED.

Of course, there is no rush in love, but there is a big difference between endurance and ignorance.

You can only endure with a man who knows wants and where he is going in life. Endurance with a confused man can be risky and a complete waste of time.

When a woman makes up her mind and decides to leave, a confused man will change and start making new promises and deadlines just to make her wait more and after a while, he goes back to his old ways and for the woman, the waiting continues.

A great man once said;

One of life’s greatest mistakes is to embark on a journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life – Akin Al-Ameen

A REAL MAN: A real man is the best gift any woman can get. He is a grown up and mature man regardless of his age that is done playing games and is ready to commit to one woman and be faithful to her.

He will be responsible, trustworthy, love you and all that concerns you genuinely and prove his love to you. He will be sensitive to your needs and allergic to your tears. He will think of starting up a family with you.

He will treat you like a queen, support you and bring out the very best in you. He will be consistent and his words will match his actions.

Real men don’t make promises, they make commitments. You will be his best friend, next of kin, confidant and you will never have to beg or fight for his attention.

He will laugh with you and cry with you. He will be more on your future than complain about your past. When there is conflict, he will never raise his voice or hands. He will peacefully make you understand his point. He will carry you along with his plans. If you disagree with him, he will never take offense.

He will trust without doubts and will give without expectations. Although he might not have a lot, he will be happy to share the little he has.

Most women think that real men are difficult to find, but the truth is, there are millions of real men out there. Some women go to the rainy forest expecting to catch a fish, forgetting that fishes don’t live in the forest.

You cannot date a boy or a player and expect the treatment of a real man… Get your priorities right today.

Till we meet again…I remain your boy @sistem.