The problem with perfection

Past years ,I have come across number of people who are move to distraction in their quest for perfection.the want to be perfect encage and worry several individual and even go as far as imprison them with cruel stress often building devastation in their love life or relationship.

This is out of the ordinary given that several people believe seeking perfection is a good thing, like many working assumptions and beliefs in our culture and traditions, when we take a closer look they may make little sense.

Perfection suggest a state of completeness ,so that nothing requisite is wanting.

To be perfect means a state whereby your performance attain a level of excellence that cannot be beyond . Seeking perfection at a particular job might be attainable and surely a student can work to attain a perfect grade yet the aspiration of being perfect in life is all together a different story . An electronic device may operate perfectly though for a short time, over time it begin to tear down and need repair .

I suggest that the view of perfection is rooted in the paradigm of Newton's mechanistic universe , Human however were never designed to be perfect ,that's a part of the definition of being human looking from the saying I am just human .

In reality, the view of perfect or imperfection are simply a construct of our mind and have no real basis other than thoughts originated them. The view of perfection had being since ancient Greece but in it more modern form or incarnation it's a concept or model of Newton's machine . It has no business however in an open worldview. We incorporate this model of perfection and stain it completely up it some intrinsic truth and then spend most of our lives wastefully chasing that truth. In our culture we go relentlesly toward greater emphasis on attainment of goal and achievement . We ask our Children,friend ,course mate what their grades were and not what they learnt. We tend to weigh our lives in term of achievement and success and loss view and idea on what it may mean to live well and this destroy any sense of balance in our lives, we tend to lose the ability to hold to wonder and awe.

Have you ever look at the glamouring rainbow and complained that the breadth or width of one color was imperfect because it was wider than the rest of the colours? Not only would that be silly ,we do also be spoiling the magnificent appearance of the moment. And yet that exactly what we do when we judge ourselves for our imperfection . We loss remembrance that as human we are part of nature and as such we will gain the more if we come into accepting the natural flow of life which happens to be imperfect by the way.

I have come to realise that pursuit of perfection is actually a disguise for insecurity . People who seek to be perfect always have an exaggerated sense of their own flaws , they might have received message in their earlier life that are not good so they think only by being perfect they would live beyond shame. This make them strive toward perfection as a compensation for a sense of inadequency. That's why perfectionist tend to think that other people are better or somehow superior to them ,so they need to be without mistakes or flaws just to catch or meet up.this is a very damaging myth.

People who seek perfection are mosttimes so sensitive to the judgement of others. Sometimes these judgment we often imagine . Every person has a suggestion but putting someone else view to the post of being a judge is really ridiculous , in real sense ,someone can't really judge you unless you put yourself or confer upon him the power of a judge. The pursuit of being perfect limits our ability to be present and it steal from us the importance of life .

Perfection is unimaginable ,unachievable and undesirable, why then do we pursue it. You will only end up wasting your time feeling insecure .Perfectionist usually uses analyzing , measuring , and judgment as a tool. If you measure yourself, you will miss out on the flow of life. There is always an inner dialogue actually speaking in the second person.

Imagine after doing something wrong,rather than thinking I should not have done that you rather think how could you have done that this second person makes you attain two position at a time and you can't be in two places at a time except in a case of quantum entanglement and you can't engross two thoughts at thesame time.

So what's your view on this?