Why we have to work hard to educate our children

in #life8 years ago

By the time you are grown up and ready to start your new job, most of us are already programmed with the belief that if you work hard, then you will succeed.  

Google defines success as: "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose."

 So to succeed you need a goal. 

 

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When we are young and innocent we have all these big dreams of what we want to achieve when we are grownup.  We spend hours thinking about the big things that lies ahead in our future.  We are positive, motivated and determined to succeed and follow our dreams.

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But how many of us, in reality follow OUR dreams? Can you even remember your dreams?

A recent case study has shown that our brains influence our dreams. We fantasize too much, and because of fantasizing our brains trick us.  Positive thinking about your future, can be very beneficial but in reality it can also harm you. Read more about this here: https://blog.bufferapp.com/how-our-brains-stop-us-achieving-our-goals-and-how-to-fight-back 

The problem with positive fantasies is that they allow us  to anticipate success in the here and now. However, they don’t alert us  to the problems we are likely to face along the way and can leave us  with less motivation—after all, it feels like we’ve already reached our  goal. It’s one way in which our minds own brilliance lets us down. Because  it’s so amazing at simulating our achievement of future events, it can  actually undermine our attempts to achieve those goals in reality.

In this next generation I hope that parents and teachers are able to direct children in the right direction.  As a teacher I see this daily.  Children do not dream anymore.  They have no clue what they want to do when they finish school.  They are so influenced by society and their parents,  that they get lost somewhere in the equation.  

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DO NOT FORCE YOUR CHILDREN TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS.  

Due to poor guidance counseling in schools, children have no direction in life.  They are thrown into the big wide world and have no clue where they are going to end up.  Some students "dream" of going to college/university, they obtain their degree or diploma and then they are stuck in a dead end job.  All the qualifications in the world,  and nowhere to go.  I have asked this questions to many students:  "What do you want to be when you finish school?" and I mostly get the same answer.  "I don't know."

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Well let me tell you something,  if we have a few thousand people not knowing what they want to be, then we are basically screwed.  They will just float around and do the one job after another to survive as they have no direction on where to go....  It is your duty as a parent to guide your children and to help set goals for them. Teach them to set their own goals.

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 I have compiled a list of 10 things that can help YOU help your child to achieve their goals. 

1.  Let them sit with you and make a list of THEIR interests. 

2.  Google it!  Google can give you as much information as you need to guide your children with career choices. Print some job descriptions and make your child read these.  They might have a totally different idea about certain jobs.   

3.  Talk to your child, and teach your child to dream.  Have general discussions with your child.  Do your own research and tell them about it.  Plant the seed of exploring, and let them explore different options. 

4.   Teach your children how to manage their time.  Teach them to work according to a schedule.  

5.   Teach them perseverance. Teach them how to accept their failures and see this only as a stepping stone to success. To succeed there must be failure.  

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6.  Teach your child to be self-confident.

7.  Help your child to start and take up a hobby or a sport.   Hobbies and sport can also become careers. 

8.  Take your child to work to see what you do, and let them do job shadowing.  

9.  Let your children take on a weekend job, or a baby sitting job to get some real life experience. 

10.  Teach your child to make the correct choices.  There is nothing as horrible as to be in a job from 9h00 to    17h00 and you hate every minute of it!

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What is your dream? 

My dream was to become a teacher.  I achieved my goal.  Teaching defines me as a person.  To me my goal is to educate and teach, and I succeed in doing this. I am living my dream.  I did not let anything influence me to achieve my lifelong dream.  It is not only doctors, lawyers and dentists that are happy. It is very important to do what you love.  

People that are unhappy in their jobs are stuck.  They are scared to walk away from their security and end up miserable.  Miserable people become miserable parents.  Miserable parents have unhappy children, and unhappy children have miserable parents that do not teach them to dream. 

 

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