Bullying, Whose guilty?

Bullying, according to an Internet dictionary, is the physical or psychological mistreatment of classmates towards another classmate. In particular it is something very unpleasant and serious, today they call it that and it is something that has existed all of life, although today it becomes significant and a reason for attention.

But whose guilty?

Recently there happened an episode where my daughter was the victim of psychological abuse by a classmate and the outcome is what motivates me to write this publication.

Years ago I read a fabulous book by the famous financial mentor Robert Kiyosaki "Child ready, Rich child" and among other things he questions the current educational teaching method, and one of its foundations is the grading system, which I am in total agreement.

The students classify them through their IQ by means of a scoring system, which seems incongruous to me as it could misinterpret the abilities of our children, it could be said wrongly that the student with the highest grade is more intelligent than the one of lower qualifications, which I totally disagree.

Among other things, the book clarifies that all human beings are not born with the same abilities, some are born to study, others to play football, and a number of skills which are not taken into account at the time of their formation.

One of the most important things in that book is that it reminds us that when we are adults and we go to a bank to request a credit, within the requirements they do not ask for the report card, that is why our children require extra training. which is the full responsibility of us parents.

And between this training and regardless of the abilities of our children, the most important thing that we should train in our children is "SELF-ESTEEM" that is something fundamental. Training our children for a life that is not the color of roses is paramount. Beyond your tastes and abilities, the most important thing is to form your personality with character, respect, responsibility and decision-making power.

So when a child is a victim of harassment by their peers, the biggest responsibility lies with their parents, for not having formed the necessary character so they can handle unpleasant situations.

The facts:

It turns out that a child for more than 3 days was psychologically mistreating my daughter, he gave her a very unpleasant nickname, which in principle did not bother her, I ignore it and she did not let herself be affected by that. The truth is that it became more repetitive and annoying, until I reached a point where my daughter overwhelmed by the annoying harassment, took a stone and threw it at her, the result was that the stone hit the boy's forehead and I fainted.

To summarize the episode, it was a moment of many nerves for her, she locked herself in the bathroom of the school and desperately called me and told me what happened. The first thing I told him was to calm down, the second was to responsibly face what he had done because there was no turning back and the last and most important thing was that he did not make decisions in moments of anger.

Among all that happened, the most amazing thing was that the mother of this child arrived at the school and defrocked screaming and insults and among other things, the lady asked, "But what do you teach that girl in her house?

I think the main thing should have been, ask what happened before, to get to that situation.

And in conclusion and without encouragement to defend my daughter, my answer was the following:

I have taught my daughter respect as the main basis of life, and while it is true that being a woman has a physical disadvantage to a man, teach him to defend himself in all possible ways, mainly with words, with the ability to analyze to know what decision to make.

I do not justify the violent fact of having thrown a blunt object against another person, that in all cases is not the most accurate attitude, but there comes a time when the glass is overwhelmed and anger takes over us. I justify the fact of having faced mainly their fears, and the different unpleasant situations that will continue to occur throughout their lives and in which they will not be able to have their father next to defend them.