The difference between what one says and what one does is as stark as night and day. Words mean nothing in today’s world which is full of people that are ready to deceive you at a moment’s notice.

It’s a sad reality and one might say that I’m being pessimist here but haven’t you noticed the same in your own life too? Growing up, we get enough experiences that are enough to let you know that people are more like chameleon these days. They change colors depending on their own selfish needs.

I’m not saying that there aren’t good people in the world. In fact, I would like to believe (or hope rather) that there are more good people than bad and I can say that I’m lucky enough to know quite a few good people in my life too. But there are enough bad people in the world to make me concerned.

That is why I think we should all have the ability to understand people better. I know it can be really difficult. Even psychologists do not fully understand human behavior but there might be a helpful trick.

Observe What People Say and Do

If you want to know what a person is like, you need to observe what they say and what they actually do. Actions always speak louder than words. Somehow, our actions always tell the truth because we act according to our motives.

I want to repeat myself: words do not mean anything in today’s world. Promises made these days are mostly empty and people will say anything to fulfill their own agenda. It’s a world full of two-faced people, or rather multi-faced to be more accurate.

So, if you want to truly know and understand someone, notice their behavior towards you and towards others. This shows their character and true intentions and will let you know if they are worth your time and effort.

Life is too short to be wasted on people who will just try to use you and be done with you when you have nothing left to offer. So, be cautious of who you let in, in your life. You don’t want to be a chewing gum!

Be Careful With Your Own Actions Too

While it is important to observe other people, it is more important to observe yourself too. Make sure your actions match with what you say to people.

For example, if you love someone, only saying it is not enough. You have to prove it with your actions continuously, or the other person might not believe that your love for them is true. It’s very important in any relationship to show your feelings through your actions, not just words.

Similarly, don’t make promises you can’t keep. Doing so will only make people trust you less and as we all know, trust is like a paper. Once it is crumpled, it can never be perfect again.

It is always wise to be absolutely honest, no matter how much the truth could hurt. At least, you won’t keep people in the dark and dangling for hope where there is none.