Focusing On The Blessings
One of the major causes of depression is constantly focusing on the unfairness in life. You cannot deny the fact that life is not fair but it does not mean that, at a point, life has not delivered goodness to you. You only see the side you have focused your mind on. As a matter of fact, the fairness in life is encapsulated in its unfairness, so you have to be fair in your judgement to detect it.
Sometimes ago, a friend of mine came to me with tonnes of complaints about how life has been unfair to him and about how his expectations were always met with "shipwreck". He even tried talking me into co-believing with him that life is absolutely unfair and there is no fairness there. Well, I just gave him a little workout that changed his perception and perspective for good.
I asked him to tear off a leaf from an exercise book and divide it into two parts. On the left side, he should write what he had hoped for but never got and on the right side, he should write what he never expected or prayed for but received. After observing this workout, he discovered that there are actually more things that he didn't pray for but received than what he prayed for but didn't receive.
You see, it is only matter of where you mind has been focused on. You will be surprised to know that the very thing you are counting as a problem, someone out there is counting it as a solution to their own problem. Do not allow the fact that you have not gotten to your destination to becloud your sense of reasoning from seeing and counting your blessings.
Acknowledging your blessings is a step to enjoying more blessings because it will release more energy within you to keep going and to enjoy life in its fullest. Enjoying life is not a function of acquiring massive material possessions but living a life of contentment. There are some rich people that are not enjoying life and there are some average people that are maximizing the fullness of life - it is only a matter of being contented with what you have and hoping for a better tomorrow.
No one is left without an obvious blessing that can be counted. If you will be able to think well, then you must see at least one blessing you can count. If not for anything, how much did you pay for the free breath that you draw? If this does not count as a blessing, then what does it count as? As you live, try to focus on the blessings you have received and not on the massive expectations you have and you will have reasons to be grateful.
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