We try so hard to help others, focusing on their needs, that we forget our own. I know of too many couples that have come to me for counseling and the ultimate issue in their relationship was that they were so focused on the other. When they were in a bad mood, when they were sad, their partner took that on as a failure for themselves. When we work on us, we are able to be happy independently, without the requirement of another's support. This means we can spread joy, rather than taking it. It's okay to ask for help, but if the well of worth doesn't start with you, then it's going to be much more difficult. That is my experience, in any case :) Good post!