The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

"For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life"
Yesterday I finish read book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson and I'm totaly suprised. You should definitly read it!

I want to give you few tips that I found out:

• The first step is to accept that you're not special
• Suffering is essential to human happines (this is the key from biological point - detecting when something isn't working). Pain and suffering should not be welcomed with open arms, instead... only take up the struggles you consider worthwhile
• If you want to live a happy life it's important to uncover your purpose. Doing so will help you focus your energy and determine what you should "give a f*ck" about (To figure out your pupose, begin by honestly asking yourself why you do things)
• Holding the right values will keep you on track to learn from failure in the long run (Example: if you value getting lots of money at all costs, you'll almost certainly give up on what could be a difficult but rewarding project after a period of persistent failure, moving on to other, easier and less fulfulling ways of making money)
• The real trick is to keep growing and learning (you should continously question all of your values)
• Real freedom is about narrowing things down and committing to what you truly want. When you reject all the orhter options that don't fill your life with meaning and happines, you can start giving a f*ck about about those things that do.
• Finally, if you want to enjoy your life in present. It's important to recognize that you wont be alive forever. Everyone is afraid of dying and to keep their memory alive after death, people create a conceptual self.

Life consists in continual dialing and as long as there are things that are familiar with our control, we have the ability to choose those we care about. The more we abide by this principle, the more freedom and fervor we will feel. In order to realize and practice it is necessary to have clearly defined values and preferences so that we can choose lightly when it comes to this decision.

Advice for today:

Take responsibility and avoid blaming others

Although blaming another person for a failure might offer temporary respite or relief, it doeasn't last. People can become addicted to this feeling and to the role of being a victim. In the end it's up to you to take responsibility for your actions in order to live the life you really want