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RE: Battles for Psychological Independence in the Living Area
Well we all had that, parent belonging to a previous generation therefore judging your activities based on what they know. They mean well, they just do not understand that what you are doing is as good as (if not better than) what they used to do when they were younger working on their future.
Moving out is part of growing up. Keep your focus on productive tasks you will do great
Are you of the opinion that one can mean well even if the same method used for over two decades hasn't worked even once? Also, if the same parents who behave in only this one way, which is very cruel and mean, behave in completely different ways with, for instance, a waiter at a restaurant, how do you explain the clear hypocrisy and the obvious lack of standard in regards to the child, as opposed to a complete stranger, which they are to treat quite well in comparison?
Why is it that "they mean well" when they treat their own kid - their own flesh and blood - like trash, but when it comes to complete strangers, they change their behavior according to infinitely greater standards? Doesn't this mean that they do NOT mean well? Isn't this the absolute definition of NOT meaning well, since the stranger means nothing to them, yet they treat them an infinite amount of times better than they treat the kin of their own bloodline?
@femmsanya I think you are over-reacting and not thinking things through.
First of all @steemingnow didn't say his parents are treating him like trash, at least he didn't explicitly say that. What I understand from his words is that his parents
It is a problem of his parents being ignorant of today's possibilities/opportunities that did not exist when they were young. They are worried their son is wasting his youth/time/days on activities that he may be indulging in for pleasure without good prospects for work/income
About your example, when his parents go to a restaurant and have to deal with, communicate with, chat with a waiter at a restaurant, of course they are not going to treat that waiter bad. Why on Earth would they do that? Why would they treat bad people they don't know... It would make no sense and they would get kicked out to start with.
The thing is that the waiter at the restaurant is not their son, they are just making conversation and trying to have a good meal in peace. Only someone crazy would go around treating other people bad. Based on what parameters would they even think it would be ok to treat the waiter bad, it really makes no sense.
Reality is that his parents do not care about the stranger, they do not care enough about the stranger to feel the need to criticise the stranger.
Their son is their flesh and blood and they want the best for him. In their ignorance they do not understand that their son is actually trying hard to do something productive.
They do not know how to deal with the situation and see the late mornings in bed as being lazy or they may think he is at the computer up to 5am to play videogames for what they know...
There is no hypocrisy from his parents. Chances are that they act like that because they are genuinely worried about their son future, the do not understand what he is up to, they do not know what to do... so they end up stressed, frustrated, make mistakes...