Really sorry for what you're going through... I know that a good rant does seem to help, if only psychologically...
Have you looked into doing a cranberry juice fast? Not that sugary crap kind of juice, but pure cranberry juice...
My wife used to get horrible bladder infections and doing the juice fastings, seems to have cleared it up, in a permanent way...
Just trying to help. Looking forward to reading how you've beaten this, one day!
Keep Strong! :)