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its really thoughtful of you to get a puppy to overcome her fears. mostly we decide to avoid such things which scares us or our children and make sure that they don have to face that kind of situations,. actually that makes the situatin even harder after with the time passes the fear starts growing and after surtain age we cant overcome it. but you went a step ahead and make sure that she overcome her fears as soon as you understood it. I AM ALSO VERY AFRAID OF DOGD AND ONE OF MY FRIEND HAS ONE. Whenever i went to her place i call her from outside ti tie the dog. it was almost 2 years when finally one day her brother was at home and he hates to keep him in chains he asked me to come and sit and then when i settled down he asked her to free the dog. I started jumping on sofas but he hold my hand tightly and asked me to keep calm, after it he gave me the dogs toy and asked me to throw it and tell the dog to fetch it. i did the same and surprisingly he started playing. he wasn't barking. i then stared touched his paws and after that whenever i went to her place i don ask her to tie him.
Wow - Thank you very much for your comment and shared experience!
I agree with you as the time passes it might get harder and harder to get rid of the fear. And it's always a process. Some events or circumstances may speed it up but as well slow it down. I think your friend's brother slightly opened the door of the other side of fear (of no fear) to you.
But now when you have passed and overcome that first and strongest barrier, it would be up to you how much further you want to go in that "out of fear" direction by allowing yourself each time when you are going to visit your friend another one small step ahead in understanding dogs behavior while at the same time remaining calm and being aware you are the one who may control the situation. 😉😊
As I said, it's a process with hundreds of small steps.
Yess you are right. And besides that I love dogs. I just didn't had the courage to play with them. Now I think I should just leave this fear behind and adopt one for myself, as starting with the younger ones always helps.