Tough Year for Our Family

This year has been tough on our family. So many losses and deaths have happened in 2018.

It started in February with my aunt, the dad’s sister, passing away after a courageous and drawn-out – but ultimately losing – battle with cancer that lasted years. It was a huge blow for our entire family, especially for dad and for my aunt’s only daughter – my cousin ten years my junior, who has two little daughters of her own.

Then my cat passed away as a result of unknown illness that prevented her from eating and drinking in her last weeks. Her suffering in the last days was great, as she was in pain and couldn’t take any nourishment.

Then this summer my mom’s much younger cousin (so my cousin, once removed) abruptly passed away at the age of 35 after having been severely beaten by her husband. She left behind a 2-years old daughter, of whom my mom tried to take care, together with other remaining relatives. Then, just a few weeks after that, her husband – who probably caused her death in the first place – himself died as a result of a rapid infection. His body could have probably fought it off, if it were healthy. But it was so worn off by years of drugs and alcohol abuse, that he surrendered to the infection before the doctors could do anything. His parents were devastated. And her little daughter was suddenly an orphan – just like her mom was, as she was growing up.

Then a few weeks ago my maternal grandma broke her hip. She couldn’t walk or even move much after that, so my mom and dad were taking of her in their home since the accident. Unfortunately, it led to other complications, both physical and psychological. The grandma couldn’t even recognise her own daughter (my mom) and was fighting the people who tried to help her. Also, most medicines she was taking had severe adverse side-effects, which only made matters worse. She was suffering both physically and mentally. In the end she simply gave up. First she refused food and a little later after that stopped drinking water. She passed away in the beginning of this week. Honestly, it was a relief for the family, as it meant she didn’t have to suffer anymore and could finally rest in peace, after a long, meaningful, but tough life that seen war, hunger, poverty and all kinds of losses. Her husband, my grandpa, was heartbroken by the loss of his life partner. He’s over 90 himself and his health is fragile…

Grandma’s funeral took place earlier today. The weather was lovely and sunny. The grandma had a new dress on. There were about 15 people in attendance who came to say goodbye. I couldn’t attend myself, as I’m living in a different country and coudn’t come home on that short notice. Although I did say my goodbyes a day before in church, when I lit a candle for the grandma.

Soon this year will be over. I guess we all are eager to leave 2018 behind us. Hopefully the coming year will be easier on our family.

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