Trust issues: the past replicating the present

Are you having a stormy, rocky, fierce, unstable relationship laden with disloyalty, lack of commitment, betrayal and distrusts and you cant seem to fathom the reason for such happenings?

First things first, who are you dating? How much do you know about this person? What was her/his previous relationship like? Background? Personality?likes?dislikes?

For a guy, you see a beautiful lady and all you have in your mind is getting the girl to boost your "male ego" . You care less about her lifestyle, her dealings and most importantly her past. It is not just about dating the lady but keeping her. You donot earn a special title dating five hundred girls in a row.

Some people date for the wrong reasons. Apparently, the bulk of their friends are neck-deep in a relationship, hence the need to tag along is intense. For some, it's the right age to get intimate with the other sex, afterall they have come "of age" ...lol . Goodnews Steemians! I have som tips which could earn you her trust in split seconds 👍👍

IDENTIFY YOUR PAST
It is trite that men are moved by what they see and ladies by what they hear. This is only instrumental to getting the person's atrention initially. The effect of the above phrase is ephemeral. Having gotten his /her attention, it is pertinent both parties discuss about their lives - their past especially. Bearing in mind, past mistakes with strong resolve not to replicate the former occurrence in the incumbent one. Mind you, every relationship is a risk, is yours worth taking?

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*KEY FACT- A LITTLE DIGRESSION
Listen up bro, every girl is an artist! They like to "draw" attention. It may not be geared at getting a man to ask them out, it is something about their integrity, their system in-built. It may be directed at getting both the attention of the male and female folks alike, earning the admiration of all and sundry and nothing more.
Please guys, do not mistake a lady's appearance as a drive to get hooked, you may be as wrong as the word " WRONG" and your first step in that direction may be dead on arrival....stonecold dead on arrival!

BE CONSCIOUS
We are human, yea, the tendency to make mistakes makes us fallible by nature. Having identifed each other's past mistakes, turn ons' and turnoffs', we need to be alert, trying our best not to show traits of those things that our partner detests.
For example, if she were in a relationship with a chronic womanizer, try not to be in compromising positions and at odd hours with girls as this may likely breed distrust.
It may look like history repeating itself, you know.

FIND COMFORT IN EACH OTHER'S ARMS
You must have something to offer, not necessarily money. There should be something to bring to the table. You cant have an empty head! When your partner is in dire need of advice on a vital issue, you should be first on her mind to talk to before her father! Yes, even her mother! This is because you have proven yourself to be trustworthy overtime. You've made her/his problems yours earnestly seeking means to help out.You have encouraged and practically pushed her /him to accomplishing goals, however difficult. In otherwords, make yoyrself relevant in all areas.

ADVICE: Do not date because it is the rave of the mment, date because you want to leave an imprint- an indelible mark which only TRUST can proffer.

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