Forgiveness induced amnesia
I have heard the words 'forgive and forget' all my life. The way these words roll off lips beautifully has always made me marvel. It almost sounds like sudden amnesia would hit you once you forgive.
I get the meaning behind it , and the essence of truly forgiving and forgetting but If there is anything I have learnt is that it is not as easy as pouring yourself a cup of tea or maybe there is skill to it that I'm yet to acquire.
It is tempting to make a post with its tittle in bold letters how to forgive and forget. It is not like you would know of i'm truly forgiving and 'forgetting-able'.... But that would mean putting up a hyprocritical face like most people do.
The forgive part I get but the forget part... Now that is a little.. Well... More complicated.
Consider this..
A friend of yours double-crosses you. Even after forgiving him, I doubt it would ever be easy to trust him or her in a venture ever again. Similarly to how people, during arguments, are able to mention wrong doings from a million years ago.
I have been in situations were forgiving wasn't so hard but i was bent on not having anything to do with the person who really hurt again. I tagged it 'me selecting those i want in my space'.
You might say I didn't truly forgive, others might say my experience with such a person was serving as a guide.
I don't know which it is and it really doesn't matter because i do know with time it all sorts itself out.
A friend of mine once told me that forgiving and forgetting is not meant for humans.
I don't know about that... But I do believe it is not human nature really and it take more than just saying the words 'forgive and forget'.
Great post.
Although it's quite easy to say "I forgive and I forget", but in reality, It takes a lot of discipline to actually forgive and forget, because, the injury caused by an individual somehow resurface when we see them or if the damage caused is a fatal one. Nevertheless, we have to learn to forgive and forget as keeping grudges will only keep our mind in misery and in bondage. Wonderful post.
It is truly bondage.
Thanks bruv
So nice hearing from you
This is the way i treat offence beforehand so i wont struggle with unforgiveness. I simply see him or her as a man and not a robot or God. And ofcos its human beings that will offend us na,not goats or in-animate objects. So simply dont expect too much from humans with flaws, and to remember always that i aint perfect myself and would need someones forgiveness someday.
Great post you have there. We really need to learn the art of forgiving. For-give. It just means knowing before hand this person will mess up and you have to create a space for pardon before it happens. Thats exactly what God did by giving us His son christ to die for us. Also, you cannot really say you have forgiven someone when you have still got some consequences he or she must face. Just imagine God saying we are forgiven but we must face certain consequences,atimes there are though. Scripture says "as the east is far from the west,He has blot away our sins". God forgives,so we should. Selah!
God is God... It takes grace to forgive the way he does. It definitely doesn't come at birth but for optimum living, it is neccesarry.