How to gain Self-Esteem if you THINK you are Ugly! (emphasis on THINK ;))

Hey there Steemians, how are you guys doing?

I don't know if you have already read my introduction article, but if you have then you might know that I had a very hard time accepting myself. The reason was that I looked nothing like my father and it bothered me quite a lot.

It affected my behavior and I lost my self-confidence because of it. One of the main reasons why I started to meditate.

So, I decided to share with you helpful guidelines to help you think otherwise about yourself because I know exactly how it feels.

1. Don't underestimate your thoughts. You might have heard the phrase "whatever you focus on, expands" and it's true for self-esteem as well. I'm not saying that you should lie to yourself and say that you feel great, you feel great, you feel great. What you have to do is be grateful for what you have. Everyone is born differently and you are AWESOME in YOUR way.

2. Now that you know how powerful your thoughts are, try to become AWARE of them and see what they do to you. I mean literally take a step back and observe. You can associate this experience with becoming a third person who is looking at you from the outside.

"What on earth are you talking about?"

I do realize that it sounds a bit supernatural, but I'm not telling you to see your own ghost or anything like that. The only thing what you have to do is not to REACT to your thoughts.

1. Work on your craft. I think this is something that has helped me the most besides meditation. When you are working on something that defines who you are (in my case it's making awesome videos, acting, taking awesome pics, learning about psychology) then, believe it or not, you will feel awesome because you are proud of yourself.

2. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Yes, even you brah. In my case, I wasn't really good at talking to girls because I never dared to do it...so I have to work at it. Does that mean that I will become as good as someone who's born with that "player" vibe and is attractive and gets nearly every girl...NO, BUT! I will definitely be better than now ;)

3. Don't overcomplicate things. Make it simple and see what you have to do to get there. Whatever you want to accomplish, it's possible. You just to remember this "stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach" <- so god damn important!!

My next objective is to get girls looking like THAT! hahahahaha

Anyway, I hope I was able to help you out and if you have anything to add then please!! feel free to do so. We are here to help each other.

Remember to Mynd Now :)
Winny out ;)