Do the rule of 30 seconds.

Let's be honest, the only thing we care in the world is our own business, our own problems, right? If that's the case with you, what makes you think that other people doesn't care about the same? Yes, we are always looking for approval of our friends, family, etc... The thing is, why not take advantage of this fact? People really like -and die- for nice words of approval by others, whoever it is, the only thing that could make you win many friends is understand the fact that other people want to receive words of encouragement. 

Say something encouraging -honestly- to a person into the first 30 seconds of a conversation, people really never forget that kind of encouragement. I practice this rule always with anyone I know. Look, someone once told me, "Be kind. Everyone you know is fighting his own hard battle".

When people meet, they look for ways to look good in front of others. The key to the rule of 30 seconds is to reverse this practice. When you make contact with each other, instead of focusing on yourself, try to make them look good. 

If you want to encourage others by practicing the Rule of 30 seconds, then remember these things the next time you meet with others:

• The rule of 30 seconds gives people a first class treatment. All people feel better and work better when you give them attention, affirmation and appreciation. The next time you make contact with people, start giving them your full attention during the first 30 seconds. Make them feel good, showing them appreciation in some way. Then watch what happens. You will be amazed to see the positivism react. And if you have trouble remembering that you should focus on them instead of you, then perhaps the words of  Wuilliam King could help you. He said, "A gossip is one who talks about other people, a boring guy is one that speaks of himself and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself."

       

• The rule of 30 seconds gives energy to people. The psychologist Henry Goddard conducted a study on energy levels of children using an instrument called ergograph, the results are fascinating. He found that when children were tired and were given words of encouragement, the argograph showed an increase of energy in them. When they are criticized or were discouraged, the ergograph showed that physical energy went down. You may have discovered it intuitively. When you got encouraged by others, your energy levels increase, isn't it? And when you got criticized, that comment makes you feel decaying, right? Words have great power.

      

• The rule of 30 seconds gives motivation to people. Vince Lombardi, the famous coach of the football team "Green Bay Packers", was feared by the discipline applied. But he was also a great motivator. One day he ate alive a player who had failed to make several blocks. After the trainning, he went into the locker room and saw the player sitting next to his locker. His head was looking down the floor and looked very discouraged. Lombardi tousled his hair, slapped the man in the shoulder and said: One of these days you will become the best defender in the NFL. That player was Jerry Kramer. And Kramer says he kept that positive image of himself for the rest of his career. Over time, he became a member of the NFL Hall of Fame. We all need a motivation sometimes. The rule 30 seconds encourages people to be and give the best of themselves.

       

For decades, social psychologists have studied the "first impressions". If you want to make a lasting and positive impression, we now know what works and what doesn't. And the rule of 30 seconds is one of the most effective means to succeed in this area. In terms of research, this is what is called "primacy effect" and its initial impact is impressive how others feel connected with you. Remember this rule and you will be loved and remembered by many people. 

Forget about: look for ways to try to look good. Rather, look for ways to make others look good.

Ask yourself: What positive and encouraging thing could I tell to every person I see today?

Do: Give each person the treatment of first class: Attention, affirmation and appreciation.

Remember: say something encouraging during the first 30 seconds of a conversation.

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