Learning to be alone without feeling lonely
Learning to be alone will help you to control your life without needing to be with people to feel full.
I learned to be alone without loneliness.
After years of high anxiety when alone, I learnt to handle loneliness without feeling pressure.
Being alone let me enjoy my company and eradicate beliefs that shaped my behaviour.
Read: Actions improve you, not beliefs.
I felt alone even when surrounded by people several times. I experienced the same in my relationship.
Being lonely does not equal marginalisation.
Loneliness is often confused with marginalisation and isolation. People around us constantly remind us of this, so we can feel this way.
This happened to me, especially after accepting my loneliness. You're antisocial started being said around me when I was feeling well and enjoying myself.
Being alone does not preclude socialising. I enjoy making new acquaintances and communicating with others.
I prefer isolation, though. Just because I haven't seen my buddies in a while doesn't mean I have to.
Before I felt confident, I felt pressure to attend events I didn't want to. I was torn between what I wanted and what I should do.
I learned the most by realising that being with people didn't satisfy me. Felt empty. I now realise it was because I hadn't allowed myself time alone.
We may not realise it, yet society pressures us. Not only do people, but also customs, advertising, and films do it.
Having a partner and kids seems desirable. Despite many not following, it's the norm. What about friends? Change and no longer having much in common makes it hard to let go.
We, including me, believe in long-term relationships. We must preserve them because losing them means losing our social life.
We know we can make new acquaintances. A new partner may also appear. These are not our limits. Still, we believe it.
We struggle to accept that "an end can be a new beginning". We've always been encouraged to stay attached, even if it doesn't fulfil us or hurts us.
Everything is harder when you change course, rethink your convictions, and stop doing what you used to do.
Differentiation is difficult. If this scares you, consider everything that happened between what was founded and what was successful.
Thin models are no longer required. Even models with Down syndrome or skin conditions exist.
These are instances to assist us avoid imitation. Because being yourself and betting in yourself is better.
My low self-esteem was revealed when I realised I was afraid of being alone. Feeling responsible for others' feelings, seeking praise, fearing rejection...
All this was behind me once I knew myself better. To be alone and realise I didn't need anyone. To distinguish from being compelled or choosing to do something.
I can go out or see pals. Attending an event is no longer necessary to feel less alone.
Ever felt this? Do you dislike solitude?
Have you ever felt good about yourself? You know how it improves relationships and lets you act on your feelings. And not what you think you must.