This is something my partner and I really have to do. With six children that need to be cared for in the event of us both passing it is something that we should have done a long time ago. Our dilemma is that four of our children have special needs. There is a strong possibility that they will need care well into their adult lives. So who do we ask to take on such a huge responsibility? No one in our family is in a position to do so. So we are left to ask friends to take on a life changing task. I just don’t know how to ask this of someone.