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In all marriages there are several circumstances that must be emphasized, among which is what the husband has to kufu '(balanced) with what is owned by the wife, based on the hadith of the Prophet. said:

"Marriage is like slavery, so one should pay attention to where to put its glory, so do not marry a woman, except with a man who (balance)."

The meaning of balanced or almost balanced in the view of the scholars is, including religion, nasab, body shape, property and work. A husband in marriage should follow Sunna Rasul's intention, and multiply the people of the Prophet. Then do good in leadership, show his wife to the right, maintain the value of religion and hope for the pious descendants who pray for it later

Rasulallahu said:

إنما الأعمال بالنيات إنما لكل امرىء ما نوى

Verily deeds depend on intentions, virtually everyone depends on what is in its intention.

While the things that need to be considered in the person of a wife is that there is nothing that rejects marriage as in the state of iddah from the first husband, to understand the meaning contained in the two sentences of shahadah and embraced Islam.

Prophet Saw. said:

"A woman is married because of her wealth, her beauty, her nasab and her religion, then you should marry women because of her religion, then you are happy."

Prophet Muhammad SAW. said:

"Whoever marries a woman for her property and beauty, then the treasures and beauty of the woman will be eliminated by Allah SWT And whoever marries a woman because of her religion, Allah will give rizki to her treasure and her beauty"

Prophet Muhammad SAW. said:

"Do not marry a woman for her beauty, it could be her beauty will bring her a valley of humiliation, and do not marry a woman for her treasure, it could be with her property that she will misbehave." And you should marry a woman who has a good person.

Prophet Muhammad SAW. said:

"Ask Allah to protect Allah from a hated thing, they ask, 'What is the hated thing, O Messenger of Allah?' He replied: 'The hated thing is (1) The betrayed leader, who robs you of your right, (2) His ugly neighbor, his eyes sees you while his heart turns away from you If he sees good then he closes his eyes, ugliness, he tried to spread it. (3) The woman who grows gray before the time. '"

Married woman is not sterile, because the Prophet Saw. said:

"Marry you with a loving woman and give birth to many children, for I will boast of you in the presence of others, and marry neither old woman nor barren, for the children of a Muslim are under the shadow of the Throne. collected by his father, the prophet Ibrahim, the beloved of Allah, they ask forgiveness for their parents. "

Married women should be virgins. Prophet Saw. said: "Let ye marry virgins, for they are cleaner in their mouths, more lusty, and good for themselves."

The woman who married was someone else, because the Prophet Saw. said: "Do not marry a woman with a family relationship, because the child born will be thin."

Children born thin because of impotence. Not the same if the wife is not from his own relatives. Because women of their own relatives are only able to awaken the power of taste to lust only. However, when viewed from the side of life and harmony, then married with their own relatives is the most special. Because women who still have relatives rarely betray her husband. She is usually patient when her husband hurts her, does not insult her husband, is not easily attracted to other men, and the jealousy of women's kinship towards her husband is embedded beyond her family-mated jealousy.

The properties as above are not easy to find in women who are not relatives, especially if the woman who is still a relative beautiful face, because it can bring more harmony and prosperity. Only Allah is the Essence Who Owns Taufiq and Hidayah.