Should You Rather Feel Bad If You Fail Or Get Rejected?

You may think that feeling bad when you fail or get rejected is the best feeling there is because it means that you did your best and that you didn't get rejected. Nowhere near as good as knowing that you tried your best and that you still failed. That failure leaves you with the choice of working harder or not trying at all. If you do try then you are bound to succeed in whatever you choose. The second feeling is relief.


If you think back over your history you will see that the number one reason for failure was not feeling bad but knowing that you could have done something about it. You may not feel bad because you know that you could have made things work. You may also realise that you just didn't try hard enough. There are a range of emotions that accompany any experience. If you can stay calm and cool under pressure then you are likely to do well in whatever it is that you are trying to achieve.

To do your best and not to feel bad, you need to do your homework. This does not mean that you should go and see a psychotherapist but rather that you should spend some time reflecting on your past experiences. You need to identify what made you fail or get rejected and then take steps to prevent these events happening again. Most people have been hurt before but they don't allow it to define them. If you can learn from your past failures then you have taken steps to ensure that you will not be hurt again.

One of the most common reasons why people get rejected is that they try too hard. By working too hard you are making it almost impossible to succeed. Instead of focusing on trying to be different and being unique, you should concentrate on just being yourself and doing things that you enjoy.

Another reason why some people get rejected is because they do not give themselves enough credit. It is very easy to blame other people for your failures when you are a beginner. Rather than feeling bad if you fail or get rejected it would be much more advisable to admit that you probably did make mistakes. For instance, if you were in a public place and you make a mistake then you should not automatically assume that it was the other person who did it. You should instead use this as motivation to improve your game and practice until you become a failure in public situations.

One of the reasons why some people get rejected is because they focus too much on the outcome. The main reason why most people get rejected when trying to get involved in work related activities or a business is because they fail to look at the big picture. They fail to see how their actions will affect the future. You should stop focusing on the outcome and focus more on what is in front of you. If you fail or get rejected, you should always focus on the positives and try and find something good that will come out of the situation.

When you are in a meeting with a prospective client, you should never start to feel bad if you fail or get rejected. You should try and see it as a learning experience and using this experience to improve yourself and your game. There is no shame in feeling bad about a situation and there is certainly no need to try and put a smile on your face. In fact when I failed several times in business, I used to feel bad about it and this only made me look like an idiot. The only reason you are not successful is because you are not trying hard enough.

I had a client who once told me that he felt bad after failing several times in business. However, he went on to explain to me that he meant that he needed to put in more effort and that perhaps he would have done better if he had asked for some help. He had the experience of asking for help and he got rejected but he kept on going anyway. He should have stopped and asked for another chance instead of looking at it as a failure and interpreting it as a sign that he should give up. Instead, he should have concentrated on the positive things he could do to improve himself and so he could have avoided the situation and therefore avoided getting rejected.