In my opinion, a relationship is about communication and connection; being good at communication is all about listening, each other, honest and with no fear of being judge or rejected, if he/she doesn't like that thought you can chose between keep working on the relationship or move to another, and it's where connection begin, because you can't have a relationship where anyone in the relationships aproves the desires and needs of the other, and "work hard" for a relationship like that is as auto-destructive as nonsense. So, lisent to her/him, seriously, ask for her/him, learn about her/him, know her/his real and honest desires and needes and for the last, make her/his life, yours, because you know you two have that connection that only you two can understand.