What I've Learnt From Fight Club. 8 leesons made me another person .

who don't know this masterpiece !!
one of my favorites movies ever , before i watched it i've had coventional idea about lfe , job , money and that stuff , after watching it made me rethink my llife afew times from different poin of view .
So I decided to watch it again. The last time I watched it was probably two years ago . I just finished watching it. And there were so many great lessons about life in it that it almost blew my mind.

There are some very obvious things the movie wants to teach us and some not so obvious things.
I don't want to focus on the obvious ones, such as the extraordinary things people are willing to do when they are depressed, upset, lonely, in trouble, hopeless

What I want to focus on are the more subtle lessons

1-potential

When Tyler Durdenstarted the Fight Club and welcomes the new members he holds a very impressive speech. A speech about how we're all wasting our potential. How we're waiting for that one thing to magically happen.

“This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time”

How we're some of the strongest and smartest species on this planet earth but we're wating our lives doing shitty jobs, paying bills and buying stuff we don't need.

The wars we fight are spiritual fights. Our great depression are our own lives

2-meaning of life and who you are
“You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.”

3- finding our freedom

The movie shows that Edward Norton trying to fight insomnia.

He started going to these self help groups where he learnt how to let go. He cries in the arms of a guy that grew breasts (Bob) because he lost his testicles due to cancer. He had to take testosterone and to balance his hormones his body released too much estrogen.

And that's when he realized that letting go, having lost everything he had (he lost his house and all his belongings) and loosing all hope helped him to discover freedom. That he's now free.

Free of all the stuff he owned that started owning him, free of expectations, free of everything that was holding him back. Free of the people that were holding him back to raise above the clouds.

I made a similar experience at the end of last year, where I came to the realization that you have to really lose yourself to find your true inner self. To be finally free. To find your spiritual

4- don't live in someone else's shoes

When Tyler talks about his dad he tells Edward Norton that his dad pretty much told him what he had to do. He had to go to college because his dad never went to college.

That's when Tyler realized that he was living a life that didn't mean anything to him. He was living someone else's life. And that's when he decided to quit his current life.

Why the only fights we fight these days are our own inner fights. Fights about our own spirituality...

5- possessions

“You buy furniture. You tell yourself, this is the last sofa I will ever need in my life. Buy the sofa, then for a couple years you're satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you've got your sofa issue handled. Then the right set of dishes. Then the perfect bed. The drapes. The rug. Then you're trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own, now they own you.”

6-don't try to control everything

We're constantly trying to control everything. Everything needs to be under control. If we have everything under control we'll have a safe life. A stable life A happy life.

So we try to constantly control our own lives, other people's lives, our emotions, the economyand so on.

And then all of a sudden something unexpected happens.

We lose our jobs, our spouses, our house or what not. And then we get depressed and upset about it. We imaginghaving such a nice and comfortable life. Only to figure out that all of this was just a dream. That we can't control anything. Expectations.

We just can't predict the future. So instead of trying to control things, live in past and/ or future memories we should let go. We should let go and live in the now instead

7-respect

What goes around comes back around.Be nice to everybody because you never know when you're going to see that person again. Treat everybody equally

That's pretty much what Tyler told the police officer when they were threatening to kill him in a restaurant's bathroom.

“Remember this. The people you're trying to step on, we're everyone you depend on. We're the people who do your laundry and cook your food and serve your dinner. We make your bed. We guard you while you're asleep. We drive the ambulances. We direct your call. We are cooks and taxi drivers and we know everything about you. We process your insurance claims and credit card charges. We control every part of your life.”

8-determination and persistence

In one scene Tyler walks into a grocery store, grabs the cashier, puts a gun in front of the guy's head and asks him why he works such a shitty job. The guy tells him that college was too hard, Too exhausting. So he quit and took the easiest bet.

Then Tyler asked him what he wanted to be in life when he was younger and the guy said he wanted to be a veterinarian. Tyler took his ID, told him he'd come back in six weeks and if he's not on his way of getting a veterinarian he'd be dead