SHOULD YOU COMMENT ON YOUR PLANS?

Have you ever heard someone say that it is not good to discuss your future plans because if you do, most likely, they do not materialize?

Have you ever experienced the experience of having commented on an idea that you had in mind, and as if by magic, you see that everything gets complicated in some way that makes it impossible for it to become reality, and recriminate you for having commented it with others?

It is possible that this happened sometime in your life. Possibly you have also been surprised by a friend or acquaintance with the news that he acquired some property, started a business, or made a trip, but only after those projects materialized.

Why do so many people prefer to keep quiet when they have some plan or project in mind?

Many people believe that behind the collapse of the plans they had in mind so enthusiastically, had to see the envy of the people, an adverse spiritual force, and even some karma for something bad that they did in the past.

Cultural researcher Vyacheslav Ruzov wrote an article about his experience with the sages of India, who have a theory of the 7 things you should keep secret. The first of these are your future plans, to prevent them from "leaving". These sages believe that a fresh idea has many weaknesses and it is very easy that if the accounts, the people destroy it and you are discouraged from doing it.

Although there are certainly many people around you who are aware of whether your projects failed or not, and that others do not want to see you succeed in life, these somewhat superstitious beliefs are anchored in the popular culture of many regions, of which, without want it, we also echo.

There is another, more scientific explanation of why when we tell others about our plans, we decrease the likelihood that they will be met in practice.

These have to do, rather, with the functioning of our brain and motivation, as explained by renowned lecturer Derek Sivers, who states that "the brain confuses saying with doing".

According to this theory, when you comment your plans to other people, this really distances you from them, because, mentally, you are replacing the real achievement (finish your project) with a simulation of achievement ("social reality" of something that has not occurred), but that makes you feel, prematurely, a sense of satisfaction for something that has not yet been carried out, which, finally, has a counterproductive effect on your motivation to achieve it.

In other words, your goals will stop being so desired, because you already announced them, and your friends and acquaintances have already expressed their admiration for you. You just do not have the motivation to follow after them.

Whatever your beliefs or views on the matter, if you can avoid it, the best thing is to not discuss your plans or projects with anyone, no matter how much you want to do it, until they have been fulfilled.

Keep in mind that, in reality, you do not have to explain anything to anyone about your life, much less your plans for the future. I agree with the idea that, if you do not want to provoke envy, love silence, and move on.