5 most common regrets of people before they die.

For many years I have worked in palliative care, with people who have terminal illnesses. My patients were the ones who went home to die. Sometimes we share incredibly special moments by being with them during the last weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they face their own mortality.

I learned that you should never underestimate someone's ability to grow. Some changes were incredible. Each of them experienced a variety of emotions, such as denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and finally acceptance. Every patient found peace before they left.
When someone asked them about their regrets or about anything they had done differently, the same issues almost always arose. These are the 5 most common:

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life by being faithful to my dreams, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common lament of all. When people realize that their lives are about to end, they can look back clearly and it is easy to see how many dreams have not been fulfilled. Most people had not yet fulfilled half their dreams and were going to die knowing that this was due to the choices they had made or had not made in their lifetime.
It is very important that you try to realize at least some of your dreams during your lifetime, because the moment you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings us a freedom that very few of us realize before we lose it.

1. I wish I didn't have to work so hard.

Every male patient I took care of said the same thing. They lost their children's youth and the company of their partners. Women also regretted this, but as most of them were from a previous generation, many female patients had not had to support the family. All the men I cared for deeply regretted having spent their lives around the job.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious decisions throughout your life, you may not need the income you think you need. By creating more space for yourself, you will be happier and more open to new opportunities.

Many people did not express their feelings in order to maintain peace with others. As a result, they never became what they were really capable of becoming. There are many illnesses that develop feelings of bitterness and resentment.
We can't control the reactions of others. However, although people may react differently when we express ourselves honestly, in the end relationships are taken to a healthier level. Either that happens, or we realize that the relationship we are facing is not for us, either way, we are winning.

Many people realize the true value of friends only weeks after they die. Many of them were left on the road due to the routine that often keeps people away and at the time of wanting to locate them because there is no time.
Many of them had become so trapped in their own lives that they had abandoned great friendships over the years. People were very sorry that they did not devote the time and effort their friends deserved. Everybody misses their friends when they're dying.

This is an amazing common one. Many people don't realize until the end that happiness is an option. They have remained stagnant in old patterns and habits. The well-known comfort or familiarity overcame their lives both physically and emotionally. The fear of change led them to believe others, and themselves, that they were happy, but every time laughter and nonsense took longer to appear in their lives.