Do you show up without calling or do you call before visiting?
I'm the kind of person who appreciates warning if a person is going to visit me. I like to make sure my house is nice and clean. I have five cats so I vacuum and cover the couches so no one has to fear getting cat hair on them. I'll plug in some air wicks in case to make the house smell like pumpkin or gingerbread.
Ring My Doorbell Without Warning And I'll Pretend I'm Not Home
Basically I'll prepare the stage for a show.
My husband and I are horribly messy. The other day we ripped the house apart to figure out ways opossums are getting into our home. Today our house was still a wreck. We had furniture and boxes all over the place where we'd looked through closets. Our trash guy didn't come today so we had to bring our garbage back in the house so animals wouldn't get it until we could make a trip to dump it. The garbage smelled.
My House Will Never Look This Nice
My father drives me crazy!
My dad lives 7 hours away. He never called to tell me he was in town. I got a phone call when he was 5 minutes from my house saying he was coming. I tried to stall and say we had just left the house to go to the store. He said he'd meet us at the store then. I lied and said we turned around and headed for the house. Of course as I was saying this I was throwing furniture back into place and hiding the garbage. All the while I was cursing because of the lack of warning.
I was so embarrassed when he walked in with the house in shambles. If he'd only called and given me notice...even an hours worth I could have had a nice relaxing visit instead of catching my breath as he walked in the house. He's always done that...just dropping in at random. He has an uncanny knack to stop by at the worst times when my house is incredibly messy.
I've always hated it when people just dropped by. At home I always walk around in comfy clothing...things I wouldn't wear in public. I'll change for company. I have social anxiety so I enjoy being prepared for a visit so I'm not self-conscious. Today I was not prepared for a visit and my room smelled like garbage for hours.
I think its a generational thing. I think in the old days, before cell phones, it was more common if you were in the area to stop over. I feel the visiters think they are being nice by dropping in. I think now it is quite rude!
My husband and I were talking about that. My dad grew up in a time when you just visited when you wanted. It's rough when he lives 7 hours away and only comes once a year without letting you know he's coming.
Hate it. I work from home and people, mostly relatives, think that because I'm home, it's OK to just stop by to visit. I don't just stop by your workplace and expect you to stop working and spend an hour or so visiting with me. Why would you stop by mine.
For one thing, it's just plain rude. Why would you think that an unannounced visit to someones home would ever be appropriate. You don't visit unless you are invited. If you are going to be in the area, call as far ahead as you can and ask the person if they have time for you to stop by for a SHORT visit. If they say yes, then keep it short.
I agree with what you say. I am a stay at home mom at the moment and people think because I'm home it's okay to come by. I feel like I'm judged when relatives stop by. If my house has a little mess then I get looks or comments. Relatives are a pain in the butt.
Hehe, your reaction sounds just like me. For some reason I would never answer the door if there was no warning given, since middle school.
I'm shy so I don't like unexpected visitors. I've been that way since I was young too.
I hear you...I also pretend I am not at home. I don't even answer the phone if I don't know who is calling and then only if I am in the mood to talk to you. If someone interrupts me while I work or write I will ignore them until I am done. I was busy first. I am not a nasty person though...I just don't enjoy unexpected company.
I also ignore the phone if I'm doing something. Drives some of my relatives nuts. Some people have their phones attached to their ears. I prefer talking on my own time.
Call first. Drop by unannounced - if I can get away with pretending I'm not here, I'll do that. Otherwise, you take what you get and keep your judgments to yourself.
I'm getting too old to spend the energy giving a damn what un-mannerly people think of me.
I should stop caring. It would save me a lot of stress.
My mother in law just showed up here without calling. And there's no bar within walking distance.
My mom is a 10 minute drive. She never visits though. Hates driving. lol. At least I don't have to worry about unexpected visits.
nice!
This is a bit of a sticky wicket...
The extreme of this syndrome is never allowing visitors, or spending days of preparation in advance of visitors... Exhausting and frustrating.
My spouse and I disagree about this, which generally means that I do it her way and we don't have visitors, unless their visit is announced a month in advance and is a family obligation.
Well, I guess that's what love is for, right? Accommodating our spouses' differences? :D
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Both my husband and I are the same. We hate people just dropping by. We enjoy being antisocial together.
I guess in this case, that's a very good thing! ;)
Hahahaha, sounds familiar, luckily I'm pretty lonely here.
Generally prefer a call first. But since we run a business from home, we can't ignore the phone or the doorbell! I have been known to answer the door to a customer in my dressing gown, if they've come round early, which is rather embarrassing.
If I'm in my nightgown I ignore knocks on the door. lol. My nightgown shows off too much skin for the UPS guy to see.
If we don't open the door, we miss either a courier or a sale! The Fedex courier got used to me being in my PJs, but the time I had to leap out of the shower and hide behind the open door wrapped in a towel was going a bit far ;-)