How to get rid of jealousy and fear of losing...

I grew up feeling like I'm not afraid of many things in my life. That's because I did not feel in many circumstances that strong feeling that overwhelmed me and made me insincere.

I did not rush my heart and I did not come to run away with many things and I came to the happy conclusion that fear is not a feeling that visits me too often.

What I did not see was that my whole life was dominated by fear. Many of the things I did, I was saying, I was thinking, were based on fear.

If you think fear is just that strong emotion that makes you feel all over your body, you are wrong.

That emotion takes only a few seconds or minutes at most.

But fear is much more than that. It's like a background sound we've got so much that we can not hear it anymore. But in the unconscious, it exists and controls our actions.

If we were to make a list of the things we do out of fear, we could fill in whole pages.

The most sinful of them is afraid of losing what we have or what we think we have.

We attach ourselves so much to things or people who give us good moments that, when we feel a threat of losing that or that person, we turn into small fighters, our "property" defenders.

Anyone who has one thing is afraid of losing it. Whether it's a car, a house, the affection of a loved one or a particular talent. Once we identify with those things, once we get acquainted with them, there is anxiety and fear.

We take our armor and we're ready to attack, because that's what our instincts call us.

There are many follies we make in life. But I think no field loves love.

In the name of love, we make the most crazy things and we are even able to do more to avoid losing it.

When you want to own a person, be yours, when you think of a title on its actions and when you want to influence it, when you think that a person is your property, you have to pay property taxes as well. But in love, taxes are bigger and more valuable than money.

In love, immosites pay for self-esteem, suffering, and despair.

Jealousy is nothing but the fear that you are not good enough to keep that person near you, and that someone might be better off to take it. And once he takes possession of us, it makes us do things we would not have done in normal conditions.

One is to talk about jealousy when you have a clear mind and to know where it comes from and what you have to do, and it is something else to put into practice what you know when you feel jealous.

I spent a lot of time thinking about how I could make people understand that the more you want to hold someone closer to you, the more you will run away, love means freedom and love that must be guarded, not Is actually love.

Because jealousy comes from fear, it is a primary instinct, and when you feel it, you think, anyway, rationally not.

And it's all the more difficult, the more we feed ourselves on jealousy. The mind is like a creative lab, and it creates various scenarios and thoughts, looking for reasons and confirmations to prove it is right.

Jealousy is like a detective looking for incriminating evidence and will not have peace until he finds them, and if he does not find them, he makes them in imagination.

How to Get Rid of Jealousy

I have come to the conclusion that there is no miraculous cure for jealousy and awareness is just the first step towards healing. The solution is not a miraculous pill, but the intense work with you.

To get rid of jealousy you have to face your fears and fear of losing. Because the essence of jealousy is afraid of losing.

But how do you escape the fear of losing your loved one when it seems to you that your whole world is spinning around her?

How can you stand without fear when you feel that without that person your life will not be the same and will turn into a disaster?

"The cause of jealousy experiences is not in the behavior of our partners, but in our personality structure, the degree of emotional development, and the way we interpret their behavior."

When we are jealous we usually blame the other.

"You are to blame for provoking my jealousy"

"If I could trust you, I would not be like that."

We like to blame the other for the negative feelings that are born in us. We like to think that we are simple innocent victims and that the other is the negative character in the whole story. We are afraid to assume what we feel because then it means that healing depends on us and not on the other as we want to believe.

It's no one's fault that you just ignore the thought that the one you love can look at someone else. It's just your fault because you have too little confidence and self-love.

What you feel, no matter how negative it is, is your problem. The others are just triggering elements, external stimuli that create situations that make us become aware and help us to know each other.

Jealousy can not survive in you unless you feed it. And as we are very ingenious, we find a lot of expectations and infant ideas to feed it and make it catch strong roots in us.

"I'm nothing without you. If you are not my life no longer makes sense "

"You belong to me, you are my own!"

"If we separate, I will remain alone, I will not find anyone, or at least no one like you."

In fact, the problem is not the other person, the problem is you and the self image you have!

What do you do if your love story ends tomorrow? What do you stand for if your self-image is on the ground and the feeling of personal value is conditioned by who comes in or out of your life?

Fear kills love, it does not feed it. Jealousy is just fear and the only thing he does is to poison you.

Cure your fears and live in peace

To cure yourself for fear, you need to know first of all what you're afraid of. Because it's not just the fear of losing and so much.

In fact, you're chasing that person with certain things important to you. In fact, her presence meets certain needs.

What do you associate with that person in your mind? What does it mean to you? What precious needs does you accomplish?

When you realize that you have personal value, that your happiness and tranquility does not depend on anyone, that love can not make you happy, but it can only amplify your happiness, it can live with you, then you will not have Why be afraid.

I leave you up next time with a thought to reflect on:

"Wherever freedom is restrained, unrepeatable or threatened, love is not pure"

See you...