Τhe other side of the coin

Traditionally, Christmas and New Year's holidays are marked by intense emotions. Most of us link them up with feelings of joy, hope, love, warmth, optimism, because we will come with our loved ones, offer and take caring and appreciation, have fun, enjoy our favorite foods and sweets.

Christmas is certainly a great family feast, dedicated more to the family devotion. The magic of adornment and all these preparations, traditions and customs, mark in an indelible way our childhood with wonderful, nostalgic memories. Although, Christmas traditions are expressed in different ways and habits, they have a worldly dominant ritual expression and that would be, the meeting of most members of a big family around the Christmas table.

There is, however, a big variety of people, whose particular holidays are very difficult and loaded with anxiety, nerves, sadness and melancholy. Why is that so? The answer of this question is multidimensional. It can be found in the symbolism of Christmas and New Year's holidays and in which ways we mentally welcome these holidays. The expectations we impose of ourselves and others. Practically, in the mental and existential obstacles that attach us to Christmas.

The expectations the others have of us, the dominance of "must" and inadvertently "wants".

Celebrations are accompanied by several rituals and customs."Voices" that interiorize and prescripts, such as "What should we do to get along well? What do we have to do for others to get along well? What do my family members expect from us? What do we have to buy for children, parents, brothers? What do we have to wear? How can we manage to make everyone happy? We want to be fair to everyone", etc.

Why this holidays create expectations ?

Even the denial of celebrations , the sadness and melancholy that often arises from these festivities, aren't but a reaction to the suffocating thoughts. The expectations we have "swallowed" since our childhood, determine what must to be done during the holidays to get things "as should be", but not necessarily what we need to be happy.

At the end of the day, even if we find the ideal feeling we are looking for in our family's festive, love, or friendly relationship, there is always that damn of an unconscious fear of losing it all, and suddenly find ourselves disappointed and lonely again. That's why, we tend to create interpersonal arguments. Tensions that our consciousness recognizes as a "safety belt", which keeps us in an inner distance from ourselves and the others. So that to not be disappointed if the approach proves to be unsuccessful.






HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!

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