Praise yourself. Rejoice in their small victories. The key to happiness #5

Hi my friends)) 

And here once again faced with a situation where people told modest, boring – "Call name so, studied there, and more and don't know what can I say about myself". And they say shyly: "I have no talents" or " Well, I can not praise myself!»

But the more people are confident in their own professionalism, talents, abilities, irresistible and significance, the easier it is to convince others. When explaining the benefits of "Brewology", paint, how cool and convenient to work with them, and that to praise himself is not ashamed... the pendulum swings in the other direction. And bragging is bad, too. A self-confident professional should not be like a small child, who boasts guests and new clothes, and toys will bring, and the chair will stand to sing a song, and tell how in kindergarten he, uuuuu, defeated the strongest boy. What you wrote best control in the fifth grade-fine, but for a potential employer or client, perhaps, excessive information.

We lack in society is commendable.

And then I began to give exercises to praise myself. Also mandatory, as a homework. Based on the fact that when a person finally fills himself with praise, it will be less waiting for her, looking for, demanding and more willing to open himself, such a wonderful world.

How to praise yourself:

1. Write down on a sheet of paper 100 (300, 500) of your achievements, victories or successes. Here you can add the contest of children's drawings and a math test. I have, for example, in the list there is what I learned punch through "goat" and through bar in the fifth classroom. Someone a trifle, but for me it was a serious victory.
2. Carry a list of achievements with you and reread it at any idle time – in transport, in queues, waiting for something. It is very important to be happy when you read this list. Let yourself feel the pleasure of your achievements, bathe in it.
3. Write down 10 positive traits of your character. If you don't know, ask others.
4. Write down on a separate piece of paper all your flaws. And here is here ask other not need to – enough your own opinion. And somehow girlfriend accused me of lack of emotion, when I didn't respond to some of her statement. The funny thing is the same week familiar military blamed on my excessive emotionality. As you know, if I were to do this exercise then I would have to admit that I was both too cold and too exalted. Doesn't fit in.
5. Now every flaw has been reformulated into dignity. Tell, this it is unrealistic? Review of the cartoon"how a man sold a cow". In the end, any assessment is subjective, in response to the record of perfectionism, it is clear that someone perceives this quality as positive, someone negative. Greedy for someone Thrifty, spender-generous.
6. New your dignity add to those ten, that you wrote in tranche 3, and leaf with shortcomings tear and throw away. A sheet with the advantages apply to 100 success and also regularly re-read.
7. Exercise "Magic pitcher" I read from Lissie-Mysse. Start the pitcher, pour water. Every evening, you say at least 10 compliments or praise to yourself in a pitcher. Water is added to everything – porridge, in tea, in the bath, wash it. Do not necessarily believe in the healing properties of the water (though not hurt). Psychological effect of the fact that you are constantly concentrating on self-praise is enough.
8. Every week, write out 30 times the world has been grateful to you. Say thanks? Didn't say thank you, but expressed gratitude in a different way? The cat came to  against my legs? This award? Write it down.
9. Make a list of all those people who you scold, criticize or otherwise Express their negative. Tell them to stop. In cases where it is impossible to say – keep communication to a minimum. Do not forget to praise yourself for it in the evening and bring the break with negative people in the list of victories.

Good luck to you my dear!!