The role of the parent is to guide the kids to success and pushing them can be harsh. To some, failure is not an option because the system demands that you need to succeed to get a head. Do not get good grade so you will not get into good schools. Do not get into good schools then do not get a good job etc....

The role of the parent is to guide their kids and give them the best possible start to make it in this world. It also all depends on the child, whether he is apt to learn from his mistakes or just keep on doing the same time again and again.

One size does not fit all and it all depends on the appitude of the child in question. He may need a little more help from his parents whilst others are more independent.

The most important thing is that you do it for the child and not for your own prestige.