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RE: I Need To Be Accepted For Who I Am
"I care about what my family and close friends think of me but I have their support in whatever I choose to do with my life from here on out."
Congratulations, it sounds like you are in the perfect position to live life on your own terms. But with all the experiences you mention, I am curious as to why you still feel like you are doing "what others expect" instead of "what you want to do"? For example, getting married despite everyone's advice against it sounds more like an example of something you did for yourself before others ?
Thanks for such a thoughtful response to my post. I would say that getting married was something that I did for myself even though it went against the advice of loved ones but I ended up feeling guilty about it after I did it, if that makes sense? I want to be able to make choices for myself and live life on my own terms without feeling guilty for making the choices that I have made. I am slowly moving into that stage of my life now and it feels wonderful. Thankfully, my family is starting to just accept me for who I am now instead of trying to change me into what they want me to be. Their intentions have been very well meaning, of course, because they love me. But, I just don't fit into the conventional mold that my siblings all fit into and my parents are adjusting to that. I'm just now becoming comfortable with who I am and letting others choose to accept me or not. It's very freeing. Thanks again for such a wonderful response.
Ivy
I totally understand what you mean. I also have some underlying guilt I need to work on. It actually is the root of many more issues that one can suspect, it's crazy. Anyway good luck with you future plans and don't listen too much to what other say, even if you love them/ care about their opinion. They may never totally understand you, therefore don't wait for a total approval you may never get from them :)
That is great advice and I appreciate it. I hope you are able to find a way to get rid of your own guilt that you mentioned. Sounds like we both know what we need to work on and now we just need to do it. :)
Ivy