03 Steps to make your marriage happier

If you ask older people how to make a marriage happier, their answer is likely to be: Accept anything without getting upset! But according to Northwestern University professor Elie J. Finkel, today's grooms are setting a new model for marriage. That is, they marry because they believe that this will make them better people, they and those who will marry. Today's married people are not only working on their own personal goals, but are actively pursuing self-fulfillment with the other. According to Finkel's new book, The All-or-Nothing Marriages: The majority of people in the engagement period feel full confidence that this is the right person, and their expectations for the relationship to success are high, but they realize that marriage is a long time
Which means that over the years and with children and jobs, and other daily stress in life, will pass times you will not feel love towards the partner, and this is normal. "There are periods that will be difficult, but avoiding divorce is the right thing to do," Finkel says in his book. Then there will be periods when the duo begins to rediscover each other, and they discover that the lack of divorce was the best thing they did.
Here is a strategy that is based on 3 simple steps to make the marital relationship a success:

Full-time

Giving no time, energy and commitment to pair. For example there are many people who say they have dedicated nights out of the house. But many do not know what they should do. From this point of view, you should get out of your daily routines through activities that lift adrenaline and increase your emotion.
Adjust your expectations

In this step you have to be a real person. If you expect to have your best friend and partner, and a companion and companion to travel, this is a lot of one person. So the demand for these things is not only from one person. These activities can be carried out through a wide network of friendships. Give your husband some freedom and spend a night with your friends, and go over some things to concentrate on the most important.

Experience the tricks of love

In his book, Finkel offers some tricks that can be done in order for things to work out between the couple. Such as writing and other hobbies. The couple also consulted with a third party, reviewing the dispute they face. Dealing quietly with your partner, trying to cool his anger, adding to the closeness, calmness and communication nicely.