To add up, your parent found a way to express their love probably to the fullest, hence compensating for the use of hitting u with the slipper, youve grown to understand their actions very well. Unlike other kids ,with different environment, they need to be guarded to behave well for the actual reasons,that is to say reason up themselves, because beating them , with time looses its value, if it's all about the beatings, it's possible for them to cultivate the habit of hiding their real selves . They will do wrong in the closets... So beating isn't bad but , communication and understanding goes on to do a great job. @madstacks