You feel like you are a complete failure in front of your dad. You are diligent in your work. Still, your colleagues don't respect you.
They believe that you are a loser and you can't do anything outstanding in your work.
You have lost the spark in your love life and things are not working now.
And here you are sitting, frustrated and fatigued, thinking what's wrong with everyone?
Why the hell life sucks?
Why is everybody like that?
This happens pretty much with everyone!
Why things are so messed up in everyone's life is because people don't want to understand other people; why they do certain things.
To understand the game learn a basic difference!
Sympathy is not empathy.
Your best friend just had a breakup. She is crying her life out. What will you do?
Tell her that you feel sad for her? Everything is going to be alright?
How is that going to help her?
Let's take another example!
One of your friends is just kicked out of his job. What will you do?
Tell him that you feel sorry for him? Try to soothe him?
This is sympathising. It never solves the problem.
It will make people feel like you don't understand what they are going through and you don't care for them, except expressing some hollow words.
What people need is empathy, not sympathy, that's where most of us go wrong in life.
The one who had a breakup, needs to keep her attention somewhere else. Get absorbed in something else to forget about the bad past.
That is when you understand her and empathise with her and truly help her.
The one who has lost his job, feels sorry for himself, feeling sorry for him will not make much difference in his life.
What he needs is a new job, and if you can help him in any way, is what empathising is, and it is what he really needs.
The world revolves around sympathy, that's why the world is so much messed up.
Avoid sympathising and pick up empathising even if you don't want to help anyone but to understand someone.
Clear The Mess With Your Parents.
Your dad thinks that you don't have a promising career.
There has been some sour air in between you two for some time now.
Things have gone so bad that you don't talk to him anymore.
Is this what you want in your life?
And let alone career, if there is any difference in between you two, is this the kind of relationship you want with him?
Probably not, right?
What you need is understanding why he feels like that, you don't have to like it, but you need to understand it.
You need to understand why he doesn't like your lifestyle.
The moment you empathise with him, you will understand why he behaves like that with you.
That's how empathising do wonders, you start to understand people from their point of view.
So now you know how your parents think, you can explain them about your conditions, your job, your situations in a different way. They will definitely understand.
Break The Ice In Your Relationship.
Some serious differences have appeared in your relationship?
Have you lost the feelings for your loved ones?
Most of the time, the case is pretty much different, yet always the same.
Once you empathise with your loved ones, you will understand why they are behaving like that.
Maybe they feel that you don't spend enough time with them, maybe they feel insecure, or maybe the difference is because of the progress you have made in your job, the jealousy!
There can be a lot of maybe's. But to find the solution, you need to empathise with them, talk with them, more and more, and then they will tell you what they feel.
Once you know what they are insecure about, you can figure out the solution.
Making Your Job Better And Easy.
If people around you don't like you, it will be hard for you to work.
Your boss hates you and your colleagues will backstab you at the first chance they will get.
You are insecure at your workplace.
You know you can't trust anyone, that's the result, but figuring out why you can't trust anyone will help you find the solution for your situation.
It is possible that your boss thinks that you are too good at your job, you will get promoted, and after that, he has to work for you. You will return the favours then. So he tries his best to make you leave your job.
Once you know if this is the case, you can create friendly ties with him and acknowledge him that if you ever get promoted, he will always be your mentor/friend.
It will ease things out.
You need to think like your boss if you want to find the solution, make things better.
Your colleagues may think that you get more credit than you deserve.
In this case, you must try to appreciate them whenever possible in front of the people who matter. This will create a friendly environment for you.
Whatever the case, whatever the situation is, it is always created by the people.
Once you learn how to understand people, you will know what to do.
Empathy always serves the purpose.