Be at peace with yourself - how does it work?

“Being at peace with yourself” is a popular phrase used to express that you are comfortable with yourself. The past, the decisions made and who you are now - everything is kind of fine.

The problem is that we often think that something has to change first, that we have to change in some way in order to achieve this feeling. I would like to show you a way that gets along without any ifs or buts in order to come to terms with yourself.

Why are we actually impure with ourselves?

You are probably reading this article because you do not feel that you are at peace with yourself, but you would like to be. In other words, you feel like you are impure with yourself. There can be different reasons. In many cases it has to do with perfectionism and pressure to perform. We can supposedly only feel good when we have done enough, otherwise there is dissatisfaction . The feeling of being at peace with oneself is therefore linked to certain conditions. The problem with this is: Often we have so high expectations of ourselves that we do not meet these conditions, and certainly not permanently. So we remain in a state of strife instead of feeling comfortable with ourselves.

Rethink and be at peace with yourself

Whether we humans are pure or impure because we often do not correspond to our own or other people's ideas is a philosophical question, and for some people also a religious question. The important thing is: This question does not need an answer in order to be at peace with yourself.

Because it's not about how we are, but our view of ourselves.

Instead of striving for perfection in order to be at peace with ourselves, we change our view of ourselves. Perhaps discover a whole new perspective that actually enables us to be at peace with ourselves.

An important key phrase can be: I am human and cannot avoid human experiences.

We are human and that includes sometimes doing things that we later regret. That doesn't even mean that these things were actually "wrong". It's just that we decide afterwards that we actually wanted to behave differently. The subsequent "strife mode" is also part of being human and also that it is difficult to forgive yourself .

Now it's getting exciting, because there is still something like the neutral observer in us. We are able to simply perceive that we evaluate something as wrong and perceive how we quarrel and are dissatisfied about it. Without further evaluating it. We can observe our humanity and everything that goes with it. Since we are not adding anything to this observation - that is, no specific thoughts, evaluations or reinterpretations - one could almost say that this is a “pure” point of view. If we take this point of view and even begin to identify with it, we can feel at ease with ourselves.

The fear of complacency

You may have the thought: "That means, I can do anything I want and always feel comfortable with it if I manage to perceive it neutrally." But people who are at peace with themselves are neither complacent nor indifferent or even reckless. Of course, it is important to learn and decide how we want to behave in the future. For example, self-reflection and our inner values can help us . But to be considerate and reflective and to develop further is possible without going into judgment with yourself. It is even better possible, as the quarrel often prevents us from looking ahead. Therefore: take courage and don't be afraid of complacency! This could also be important to yoursTo question beliefs .

Be at peace with yourself in everyday life

Always and everywhere - whenever it occurs to you - try to take the observer's perspective, the "pure view" in order to be at peace with yourself. You can also create memories for this. A very good memory can be your uncomfortable feelings . If you find that you are not feeling well, there is no need to mentally go into it and immerse yourself in those feelings. Let them be there and watch them - without judging. If you start to quarrel with yourself and think, "Why did I say or do that?" Just be aware of it. In this way you can relax more and more , become more relaxed and be at peace with yourself in many moments - enjoy it!